Hey /adv/, I have a question regarding hoarding.The people involved are my parents. I'm 22-years-old and I have moved out of home but I always felt that while growing up, my parents never really kept the house clean and that they always possessed way too much stuff to the point rooms haven't been used for anything other than storage.It wasn't until recently that I think that my parents may have a hoarding issue. I have tried to talk to them about it, give them advice books and look for advice in general, yet I feel defeated at every angle.There's a lot of signs pointing towards the hoarding addiction, e.g: collecting card making equipment they never use, buying things but never using them (having them there 'just in case') and not cleaning said affected areas.I have attempted to help them with this for the past 7 years and they still do not want to do anything to help it. I don't know if it's time to just give up on them.TL:DR: Hoarding parents. Haven't changed nor sought helped after 7 years of trying. Is it time to give up?(Can post pics if they're requested)
Hoarding is different from having tons of stuff and not cleaning, it's a psychological issue effecting how you relate to your possessions. If your parents don't have sentimental attachments to pointless things, then they're either just lazy or depressed.
>>19058989Actually, never mind my advice, I just read the middle paragraphs of your post
>>19058613Learn how to salvage and construct (both structurally and mechanically. Electronics too if you can.) items you'd find fairly often.Then use your parents' hoarded possessions to build a mechanical golem friend which will sing you happy birthday on your inevitably forgotten birthday while your parents are out at a flea market.
>>19058888This. Don't parent your parents. 22 is an appropriate age to learn this. You're on track, OP.
>>19058884>>19058888>>19058989>>19060174OP here. I guess you're right, anons. Thanks for the advice.
So I was friends with this guy and he seemed pretty nice. I was dating a co-worker of his though and we eventually broke up. I tried making a move on him but he told me that he would feel guilty because him and his co-worker were friendly. I told him it didn't matter since we broke up and literally offered him sex on the spot, but he said no.Now this guy has struggled with women a lot and had been sidelined by a girl he really liked for a while, so for a while he just ran marathons/helped build stuff for habitat for humanity to work it off, so he became really fine physically and coupled with his giving(not in a bad way) and big heart, I fell for him. So I talked to him more about it and asked what he wanted, I've never done this for any other guy and tried to like the same things he did, etc. He just grew more distant at first but I could see that it was working. I talked to his friend(mutual) about it and he told me that he was scared of me because of what I'd said about my ex and moving on so fast. Plus he felt pressured to have sex (he's a virgin) and felt "trapped" around me. So I decided to cool it down and we agreed to take things slow(he brought it up which was nice). Then I met another guy at a party and we slept together, I felt a bit bad about it but the new guy was basically him(same size, muscle etc) and made moves on me whereas he didn't except for hanging out with me and helping me with stuff. One thing led to another and I started dating the new guy, the other guy found out during a phone call and had a meltdown. It's been a couple months and I hear through mutual friends that he's been unable to move on. He still talks about me and blames himself, but it just...sounds so dumb to me? He's apparently stuck and is unable to move on because I "abandoned him". Isn't this all a bit dramatic? I'm not sure what to think because I offered him a relationship, told him I even loved him and all he did was spend time with me and do stuff but make no moves.
>>19060875>So I decided to cool it down and we agreed to take things slow(he brought it up which was nice). Then I met another guy at a party and we slept togetherhmm
Is it that easy to get sum fuk? Some pussy? Or are certain pussies able to stretch as far as the ocean can get?What the hell.. he was right not to trust you from the start. I feel bad for him
God I love this board.If it weren't for adv I might still respect women.
>>19060880>>19060880Can we please not turn this into a "lol you're a slut" typical 4chan thread? I don't fuck every guy that I meet. I spent *two* months with this friend of mine and he never attempted to have sex with me even once. Literally all we did was talk, hang out, watch movies, go on the occasional date and him doing stuff. It was cute and all, but there was very little physical affection and all my friends were either dating or had some kind of partner. It made me feel unwanted and when I met someone who was pretty similar to him and knew how to have a good time, it just happened.
>>19060891Two whole months without sex, holy shit nvm you're definitely in the right.
GUIDELINES:Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.Keep questions short for more answers.If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.And please no derailing arguments.FAQ:>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.>I like someone. What do I do?Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>19060857>>19060863I used to date a girl who pissed on me.I fucking loved it.I'm trying not to fap today and this isn't helping.
>>19060030>>19060056>>19060854>lying about the importance of social status
>>19059669>you need to recognize that a girl cannot give you happiness, she cannot cure your loneliness, and she will not be able to validate your worth.This, honestly.If you want a girl because you're So Ronery ;_;, then you're looking for a girl to carry your emotional burdens.Nobody wants to carry your emotional burdens for you.Be content with your own company.
Is It a bad idea to go back with your ex?
>>19060206>How would you feel if the person you've been dating for a couple of months revealed a couple of hobbies that would be considered "odd".Meh, people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.As long as it's not likely to get us in trouble + the hobby itself doesn't ruin the person over time (E.g. Gambling, Drugs, Rick & Morty) then whatevDropping fat stacks on dolls? Eh, to each their own. Doesn't sound like it'll hurt you or those around you so whatev. 'sides I'm sure I have my own niche autism hobbies, so I can't be too judgemental.
what do men want?
what i wantpeaceand quietso i don't want a girl thx
>>19060148:-)
>>19060104This.
>>19059901Someone we can truly respect and relate to as a fellow human being with big tits
>>19059901Wouldn't know. As apparently I'm not a Real Man™ .
What's a good quick way to go from being a slavland slav to ghetto black?
>>19060882The only difference is skintone.
>>19060885Evidently you are not familiar with the subject and are not qualified to give advice, slav2black thread only please.
I don't see one anywhere. What is it? What's eating at you today?
>You reach out and ''go insane''>I respond and tell you I'm here and ready >You dissappear pretend it was never what you wanted still replying but totally not interested>I decide that it's not worth my time the irl or nothing was you and not me>I tell you I want to be friends before we even start thinking relationships>You say I don't open up and I'm the bad one just because I ghosted you 3 times after your hot and cold bullshit >back to the i can't live without you bullshit until I bite again and you fuck off againYou just want an eternal orbiter, I told you it's over. It's been a week, go and stay go.
So, I am in an 8 year relationship. My girlfriend is my world and she's supported me through everything. Everything is good between us, the one main thing is I am pretty charismatic, I think thats what brought her to liking me. She has anxiety and she is trying to get better and she is. She works a salary job,degree and is doing it. My biggest problem is that I like to help people.Guys or girls, it doesn't matter I really want to motivate people . From tough relationships to life/career and making money/general happiness. It takes away time from our relationship and I go out to eat with friends all the time, be it guys or girls. I've gone out with 3 girls this past week, all friends of the past. I had a heart to heart about not cheating on their bfs, and being honest etc. Sadly at the end of the convo today, one girl told me she liked me and she wished I was single. The opportunity to mess around came up and I just patted her on the shoulder and said "dont worry you'll get someone".. The thoughts to cheat came up but the urges went away after thinking it through. What bothers me the most is that I am conscious of my talks with people. It helps them but I know what the repercussions are. I am open with my girlfriend about everything. Its not really an advice thing just something I wanted to get off of my chest.
>>19060069>>19060057It's oddly satisfying, especially because the person eating usually will talk about whats going on in their lives as well - kind of like a vlog. They're supposed to make you feel like you're eating/talking with that person inrl. Also they eat mass amts of food and it blows my mind.
>>19057659I know I'm going to sound like some faggot commenting on dadrock videos on youtube trying to impress old people when I say this, but part of me kinda wishes I was born earlier enough to experience this time period. I don't hate being the age I am, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't appreciate what the internet is able to provide us with now, but I can't help but wonder if we were truly better off with shitty internet instead of internet that's fucking everywhere.
D,This is probably the last time I'm going to put my memory of our time together into words. Someday soon might be the last time that memory is in my thoughts. I just never had closure last summer, and that friend you're getting creepshots of me from kinda makes me think you didn't either. I never deserved what I asked you for, so I'm not surprised you didn't give it to me, but you told me you would and you didn't, then you told me you wouldn't and you did, and that hurt. The pain and pressures you feel are real, but artificial. I wasn't the strong or traditional man you deserved, and I'm still not, but it hurt even more knowing that I had lost even more of my time and energy to the same sinkhole we're still stuck in. Now that you've neglected the fate and coincidence that brought us together again and again, I hope it's merciful on you and on me. I hope you're not reading this and I hope you left this website after you left me. And I hope we have better luck next time around, if there is one.All the best,A
Hes a very good person and im in love with him, but i dont find him attractive... What can i do? Hes perfect for me in every way, but im afraid of starting to feel like his friend because theres no attraction of my part. He got cheated on mny times and its sad but i see me being capable of that... I just dont wanna hurt him.Hes not fat or short or ugly, hes rly tall and has a gym body, but i dont see him the same way. Help
>>19060772>college aged femalesno thanks. i also doubt bench pressing 200lbs with my face will make it look any better
>>19060799Are you deformed or just Kylo Ren?
>>19059923https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ULlNPFow0X0
>I just don't wanna hurt him. Losing a girl who's so attractive and compatible is going to shatter that fucker like glass. Identify what, specifically, makes someone sexually attractive to you, because the face only does so much. Case in point, homely and shy things in skirts drive me up the goddamned wall, while I mostly feel nothing for someone with a flawless face but a shameless ego. Girls seem to like bad boys that they can tame into house pets. Part of your loss of attraction might be due to the fact that he's a pretty tame guy, but part of it could also be that you feel sympathy for him and his past burns. Your best bet would be trying to build him up a little bit in terms of self-confidence, maybe push him into hobbies or vices you'd like to see him pick up.
>in love with him, but i dont find him attractiveWhat?I don't understand.
Who /ugly subhuman/ here? How do you deal with existence as an ugly male?
I'm a 7/10 so can't get quality. Could slam 5/10 every day but fuck that! I need 8.7/10 and above.
>>19060734I'm gonna write children's books for the other kids."So you're ugly and everyone hates you""Why you were bad at sports and your eventual gender dysphoria""Why it's okay for them to be narcissistic but not you"
>>19060744Fuck off Chad>>19060755I foresee a great future for blackpilled fiction.But still, JFL @ implying you're talented and motivated enough to even write a children's book boyo
I'm pretty average, but thanks to social media and the vast amount of options it brings girls, I may as well be ugly.>Time and time again the girl you thought was into you was just being niceDoesn't even make me feel anymore, it's just an "Oh", now.
Anyone know the name of this flower?
This girl I started seeing has a 13 inch dildo and its curved and thick. How do I get past this? I asked what the use for me is and she said "I dont really need to hookup because i have my toys". She wants to date me but I feel kind of emasculated. Why /fit/? Lets get a sexual health thread going
>>19059816>would stick it out until you have sex with her Already put the time in. Might as well get your reward then dump her
>>19058470Still counts as a virgin.
>>19057998How can you ever be a real bf to her when you know for a fact that you can not satisfy her? Shes basically just using him as an emotional crutch while she has her toy to sexually fulfill herself.
hello welgome to advice!!! :DDDd
>>19060859Is this bait? Come on, this has to be bait.
I'm 20 years old.I didn't work out Monday or Tuesday. I haven't had a consistent workout schedule for the past three months.I haven't been socializing as much as I was during the summer. I've been keeping one of my only friends on the back burner.I'm broke as fuck. The credit card debt is still there though. I keep accepting money from my parents because my minimum wage cuck security job doesn't cut it and it's really killing my self-esteem. I feel like a huge piece of shit.I feel like I spend too much time playing video games and I can't get the negative thought that because I've wasted so much time playing video games and doing jack shit with my life that I've already doomed myself to a miserable life.I don't quite know what to do to change my situation and I'm starting to come to terms with that, which scares me. I don't want to become stagnant in life and end up like my parents not having done anything with my life.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>19060735Get a security clearance and firearms training, then you can take much more lucrative security positions and make it on your own.
>>19060858Great advice bro. I can't get the certification for armed security until June but I'm definitely going to jump on it first thing. I have a SECRET clearance. It's not too easy to go higher than that in my job...
>>19060868You shouldn't be at minimum wage with a secret clearance. Your company is screwing you. Apply to some other companies.
I'm an angry person. I'm successful, ambitious, driven, but also incredibly angry. It's entirely internal and I keep it in control. I've never let it out. A lot of my anger is aimed towards drugs, drug addicts, and drug dealers. I don't know why I feel this way but I have for many years now. I know there's a lot of people here that do drugs and so maybe you can help to provide some insight as to why I feel this way. Why do I look down on drugs, drug addicts, and drug dealers? Perhaps it's that I see it as a weakness and I dislike that aspect of it. I don't mean to offend or upset anyone, I just want some ideas, or opinions, or an alternative view or way of looking at things. Also, thank you for taking the time to read this. Merry Christmas.
GTAB
>>19059965Hello. Perhaps you feel your anger towards the existence and reality of a world of drugs as you see how poisionious and destructive the reality is.It is a saddening fate, the cycle of drugs. And as a global trade, the scope of being 1 individual to the billions of individuals leaves much reckoning as to how can humanity as a whole ever overcome one of its many flaws.
>>19060228Yeah man I agree with everything you say but the alcohol part. If you can't hate sober you're just a hypocrite. I mean I am too because in the grand scheme of things 4chan is kind of an addiction but still, you're worse. You have no claim to your hate.Op idk the what has gaslighted you but you are 100% correct that substance use = weakness.
>>19059988That webm is great
Do you feel similarly against any other poor self control behaviours? Alcoholism, overeating, gambling etc...?
It's late and I'm suffering from a bit of insomnia, so figured I'd ask people's opinion about something.In your mind, what all is the difference between being a fwb, and dating the person?Someone I've been fwb with for about 6 months now has been asking if I'd like to start dating. Just wanted to get an idea of what the difference is.In case it makes a difference: Me = F, person = M.
>>19060604A friends with benefits is strictly non-committal. You have sex, and sometimes you do friendly activities, but you're allowed to do whatever you want with other people, and they're supposed to be no romantic feelings. If someone ask you to switch to a relationship it's because they are starting to feel romantic feelings towards you, and don't want you sleeping with other guys as a result. If you do not feel any romance with him, probably not a good idea to agree to this, and instead should break things off to be strictly friends or even stop talking to each other. Being in a relationship also comes with more of a timetable. It's expected that you will consider each other's feelings, and the longer you date each other the more immerse in each other's lives you are supposed to be become.
>>19060604If you can have sex with someone and not have feelings with them then something’s wrong with you.
>>19060700What ?! Are you serious ? There are no feelings required to fuck someone. Is it better to fuck someone you care about? Sometimes, and sometimes strange poon is fucking amazing. Mayne you have something wrong with you that makes you believe sex means someone cares about you. You're funny.
>>19060608Now insomniac and drunk, so proceed with caution.I really don't think he wants exclusivity. In fact he has consistently been a goy to go with when I 've been particularly hoe-ish.
>>19060604I'm pretty sure we have different definitions of what it means to be dating someone so it depends what you meant by dating. He might want commitment and exclusivity.
>dating a girl who is pretty perfect in almost everyway>Nice, pretty, funny, smart, into fitness and outdoors like me. The kind of girl you'd take home to your family and they'd be pushing you to marry her.But.>Social Studies/ Humanities major>Doing grad studies>Basically had Social Justice memes drilled into her head for 6 years>Politically she is like the lefty version of a pol/tard, but she hides it in public>Unironically says thing like "I'm resisting the patriarchy">Laughs uncontrollably at my raunchier jokes but then tells me they are insensitiveIs she ruined? My last girl became more of a centrist after dating me, but this stuff is this woman's career. I have had open discussions about my political feelings that got pretty heated, with my ex, but she was pretty reasonable to start with. I personally don't care if the person I'm dating sees eye-to-eye with me on everything.She seems to be doing very well in her school and was appointed the chair of some committee by her professor. Is she just going to be unemployed with such a meme degree after she graduates? I think she could at least teach.
>She would likely abort it for the street cred
Okay, OP, I'm gonna go through the quickest way to make a dumb cunt stop acting like a dumb cunt.>Plan a vacation, a big one, to the 'middle east'>never specify a specific country, keep that part vague, it's important that you do not specify>Bleeding heart bitch will think you're going to Iran or something to help mudslime ape children defuse the IED's their fathers buried.>Actually bring her to Saudi Arabia, where women are treated as objects and cannot go out in public alone, or without a hijab.>Show her what true inequality looks like, maybe let the mudslimes call her 'whore' and shame her for her 'revealing western pig clothes'.>Bring her home, she has now seen true inequality and is properly humbled>Bitch cleans the house, sucks your dick, bares your children, loves you unconditionally, all without complaint>No more whining about "The patriarchy"
>>19056949>not like many famous writer, physicist, philosopher, etc, took some menial labor, blue-collar jobNobody is saying this. Many important intellectuals did hard labor. The type of person who majors in race or gender studies is not an intellectual, and will not do hard labor. OPs gf falls into the latter camp.
>>19057570I'd be more impressed by your mental superiority if you know the difference between WHO'S and WHOSE
>>19060810>one grammatical error invalidates the entire sentenceDesperate
Over the past year I've been hearing people talk to me . I know they aren't there but they are very real to me and I can carry on a conversation with them. I would talk to someone about it but I'm attending college very soon , I don't want to de rail my college career by telling anyone about this. what should I do?
How old are you OP?Might be schizophrenia, not even joking. Talk to someone about it, and if it is, start medication asap.
>>19060507Go to /x/, to see if you have developed audiovoyancy and youre having conversations with interdimensional beings. Truth is stranger than fiction sometimes
Hi OP! Please make an appointment with a psychiatrist for an evaluation, you can see the school psychogist/s as well at your the campus. You will need to let your parents know.It is okay. And it is great that you caught on.I'm sorry you experience this.It must be strange and off setting.Good luck!
Please don't listen to shit like "interdimensional beings" and "audiofucktard abilities"Anywho. I'm sorry that drugs became your copig mechanism.The weed is triggering you. It will lead to psychosis and consistant paranoia. Please quit smoking.The alcohol should be okay if it is not for getting drunk, passes, escaping life/reality, but as to casual drinking. Refrain from drinking your ass away.Bad habits start small. They will destroy you.Good luck and take care!Remember, friends and family are key. Hobbies and interests will give you focus, motivation, structure. Stay healthy. Good diets and good sunshine, breathing, fitness.Peace!
>>19060844Ayo, my nigger. Eat a dick
