All About Marriage

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?

Recent posts on Marriage

Should You Tell A Friend That You Don't Like Her Partner?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on December 09, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
What to consider before telling your friend that you don't like her partner.

The Cure for an Imperfect Childhood

Some of us got off to a rough start in life, and for many of us, our childhood was missing the kinds of experiences that every child needs in order to thrive.

Couples Therapy: Does It Really Work?

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in In It Together
Are you wondering if couples counseling will work for you and your partner?
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The Heartbreak of Relationships with Narcissists

By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT on December 06, 2017 in Toxic Relationships
Partners of narcissists can feel as cursed as the tragic lovers Narcissus and Echo. Their myth reveals important lessons for heart-breaking relationships with narcissists.

Why Empathy Is the Golden Rule of Couples Communication

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
It's only logical that to get your partner to hear you the way you want, you first need to emotionally connect with them. Yet that’s almost never what happens.

Blended and Extended Family Holiday Blues

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in Complicated Love
What do you do with extended/blended family conflicts during the holidays like power struggles, donnybrooks, rejection, or the fact that two people you love can't stand each other?

Playing Out Our Childhood Role

The roles that Dr. Napier refers to have to do with the functions that were assigned to us in our families, usually by our parents when we were very young, sometimes...

How Sex Is Connected To Marital Satisfaction

Taking the time to connect with your partner can lead to better – and more frequent – sex.

Winning Love

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on December 05, 2017 in In the Name of Love
Attempting to change the beloved and surrendering to the beloved are common practices. Although each has some value, neither is effective in guiding our romantic path.

A Good Apology Is Hard to Find

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on December 04, 2017 in Mindful Anger
Right now, it’s men’s apologies that are in the news. But, we can all take this moment to brush up on our apologizing skills, and recognizing when we have things to apologize for.

The Dark Side of Outing Men’s Sexual Misdeeds

The vast majority of men I deal with in therapy say, “If she doesn’t want it, it totally turns me off.”
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3 Tips to Finding Love When You’re Older

It takes a willingness to stay the course and not give up.

Sex in America: 45 Years of Often Contradictory Changes

By Michael Castleman M.A. on December 01, 2017 in All About Sex
Teen sex has decreased, but casual adult sex is on the rise. Acceptance of premarital sex is up, but acceptance of affairs is down. What’s going on?

10 More Ways to Show Your Love

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on December 01, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
These are just a few ways to become closer to the one you love and who loves you. It’s never too late to increase the connection between you.

Are Women Harsher in Judging Single Women Than Single Men?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 30, 2017 in Living Single
Are women especially judgmental and mean about single women, as the “catty women” caricature would suggest? Scientific studies provide a consistent answer.

Is Your Family a Forgiving Community?

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on November 29, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
Families can reduce the tensions in the home and create greater harmony between partners and among children, if forgiveness becomes part of the norm for healthy family functioning.
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Why Do Narcissists and Borderlines Fall in Love?

If you have ever wondered why Borderlines and Narcissists are drawn to each other but still cannot make the relationship work, this article is for you.

Be Your Own Hero

Albert Einstein talked about this kind of respect when he wrote: "A human being is part of the whole called by us 'universe', a part limited in time and space..."

Why Marry?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 26, 2017 in How To Do Life
Amid today’s changed social norms, should you participate in the venerable institution of marriage?

Can the Seeds of Love Be Planted Synthetically?

By Eyal Winter Ph.D. on November 25, 2017 in Feeling Smart
Here's a rigorous procedure for falling in love.

Read this before heading home for the holidays...

Holidays, family meals, and reunions can include “spirited” conversations, and “enthusiastic” exchanges of opinions over the dinner table...

The Other Woman’s Role in the Breakup of Your Marriage

Words have power so if your husband leaves you for another, you’ll feel better if you call her names - homewrecker, low-life, bitch, whore, tramp, slut, skank.

Age Is Just a Number

Wolfinger’s Goldilocks Theory demonstrates that the likelihood of divorce is the lowest between the ages of 28 and 32. With this in mind, how long should we wait to wed?
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Your Body Is at the Root of Your Rage

By Jason Whiting Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in Love, Lies and Conflict
Is anger interfering with your intimate relationships? Your body may be hijacking your good intentions.

The Situation Is Urgent

There is usually one in the pair that can process information more rapidly than the other...

Testamentary Restraints on Marriage

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on November 16, 2017 in So Sue Me
Many parents have a lot to say about their children's love interests and relationship decisions. Some parents want to have the last word, even after they die.

Are More Men “Marrying Up” Today?

Literature is filled with stories of economically disadvantaged women looking to find a mate who was financially able to provide for her; do men do this more often now?

Sexual Variety

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in The Human Beast
There is an astonishing amount of variation in sexual behavior around the globe and over time. Many of these differences can be explained as adaptive responses to the environment.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust X: Breaking the Silence

I know of no relationship that improved without conversation.