The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.
—  Albert Ellis 
When you are dead it will only be you and your deeds. You will have no name, beauty, race, friends, family, jobs, status. Remove the labels and judgements in your life, because in the end they will be irrelevant.