I flew home to North America from Europe yesterday, after spending a month abroad. By this particular leg of the journey I had been awake since 2am and had only had 3 hours of sleep the night before. Suffice to say I was cranky, but dealing with it. Our flight was 10.5 hours.
Anyways about 1/3 of the way in they serve lunch (dinner?). My partner and I had been snaking on Pringles from the big container and I stuck the container inside the cup holder on the tray and put my dinner tray next to it, with my glass of wine on the tray. The flight attendants politely reminded everybody to put their seats up for the comfort of other passengers and all was well.
Until the douche canoe in front of me decides to recline his chair into my lap, knocking the Pringles container off the tray and almost pouring the glass of wine into my lap. I was immediately pissed off so I pushed forward on the chair to prevent destruction of my tray/lap. He pushed back. I tapped on his shoulder and he says "what?" - I very politely asked him if he could keep his chair upright until the meal is finished. In response he pulled his torso forward and then rammed it back into the seat, slamming his chair all the way down and pissing me off beyond belief. I hit the call light but the FAs were serving the other 300 passengers (we were in the 2nd row so got our meal very quickly) and nobody came to tell him off.
What also pissed me off was that with his chair down he was still fucking sitting up and leaning forward over his tray! But when I picked the Pringles container up from the floor some inspiration came to me:
I used my neck pillow and slowly fed it underneath my tray and on top of my lap. With fucko sitting forward I was able to discretely push the seat up to get some slack and slid the Pringles container into the cup holder and wedged it underneath the ledge for the entertainment system. Then I put my feet flat on the floor, which moved his seat into about a 100 degree angle (by virtue of pushing the tray up which pushed the Pringles up and pushed the seat forward). With the bean bag neck pillow between my leg and the tray all I felt was a tiny bit of pressure.
We finished our meals and the FAs came to collect. Immediately buddy seems confused that his chair is now upright and keeps trying to put it back. He's pulling forward and ramming back, shifting, trying to apply gentle pressure, fucking around with the button on his chair and complaining to his girlfriend, who keeps looking back at me (unable to see the pringles container at her angle) and commenting "she's reading she isn't doing anything to it" as my smile is getting bigger and more filthy. This went on for 6 hours and on the (very full) Flight he spent a ton of time standing up in the aisle complaining his back was sore. He even swapped chairs with his girlfriend and my partner did the same thing on his own tray to prevent the guy from getting a good recline. I was a bit worried about the effect of the pressure on the tray/seat, but it held.
Anyways on descent the FAs asked everybody to put their seats upright and fold in their tray. He was again in front of me with his seat jammed and the Pringles container holding against a lot of pressure. Before he could move I quickly ripped out my neck pillow, causing him to fall back an inch and then I ripped out the container, making him fall back the entire way and scaring him in the process. I let out a loud "OOPS OMG THAT WAS STUCK THIS WHOLE TIME AND THIS POOOOOOOR MAN COULDN'T RECLINE HIS SEAT" and watched as he bitched to his gf about it.
The best kicker was that the door was behind us, so upon landing he shot daggers into my backside as we exited the plane before him.
Don't be rude/inconsiderate next time!
You weren't in the second row of the plane if you had to deal with anyone reclining.
2nd row of economy
I mean, as the fixer of technology in my house, 90% of the time the problem is nonexistent when I try it. The whole "it works fine for me" is a common occurrence. It would only become obvious if they repeatedly switched.
I think he suspected we were doing it, he just didnt say anything
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I'm a registered nurse mostly working with cancer patients. I cringe so hard whenever my patients only want alternative treatments because I have never seen one survive yet (anecdotally- I don't know the stats but in my nearly 4 years in this field not a single person who completely rejected western medicine has survived in my unit).
Of course I'm don't say it like that to their face, but I do try to convey that they should have a long convo with the oncologist to discuss going the alternative route first..
My employer also encourages us to engage in holistic care, meaning supporting the patient no matter what they choose and of course I always do so, but it's so hard to stand by and watch, knowing what the outcome is going to be.
Sometimes people choose this because they're told that they're palliative with very few options, but (especially for lung ca) there is often a clinical trial/ immunotherapy available. Certain types of cancers respond really well to immunotherapy and many of our 'palliative' ca patients pull through for years following the treatments. It really kills me to watch people reject the therapy in favour of natural remedies in these cases...
You can do this, just please don't go back to him.
It will be the hardest for the first week or so. Let yourself feel however you're feeling and really take the time the mourn the loss. You will start feeling better the next week, although it may be tempting to contact him. I would say to promise yourself you won't contact him for 30 days if the urge is strong. By that point you should be feeling muçh better and will likely not want to speak to him ever again.
You just reclaimed all your power in this relationship. Congratulations! Channel that power into bettering yourself and learning about what you like and want and I promise when the time is right you will love someone else (and hopefully will look back and wonder why you ever wasted your time with this loser). I remember your first post- super proud of you!
My boyfriend of 4 years suddenly started doing the same last November. For him it was stress related. I made him go to anger mgmt, which did not help because it turned out he was actually depressed. He has been taking st. John's wort for 3 months now and he is the person I fell in love with again. I don't really believe in herbal medicine but one of our doctors at work (I'm an RN) said she tried it and it turned things around for her, and suggested it. Three capsules daily was all it took.
I do dread if he comes off them, though. I completely empathize with how you're feeling.
Let me guess, you drive a Honda too?
Used to drive a Honda civic
Now I drive a Renault Talisman (costs about 20k USD more)
I miss the fucking Honda. Fuck this space car and all its shit :( the thing pretty much drives itself and yet it's the most annoying fucking car ever and it's huge.
20 years experience. I find the biggest difference is the inability to self regulate. Some kids struggle with the word “wait.” Some kids struggle when their emotions get too big- they don’t have coping mechanisms. Some kids aren’t able to interpret the emotions of others. However many kids are just fine.
I think it is related to changes in parenting and technology. The instant gratification of technology combined with parents who don’t create boundaries create kids who can’t self regulate.
However I also think that kids spend less time outside unsupervised. The natural processes of learning and social interactions is not happening for most kids.
Most kids are really pretty good. Every year I have kids that prove my faith in humanity. But that 10% who trash classroom, scream, and freak out are getting worse. The difference between the top and the bottom is only getting larger.
Currently travelling in Spain and the biggest cultural difference I've noticed is that there are unsupervised kids running around EVERYWHERE after school, until 8 or 9 at night. They're at the docks jumping into the sea, they're riding scooters and playing games, and they seem so much happier.
I'm not a parent yet but my kid will be having the same freedom I had as a child and the same freedom that these kids do..
I'm currently travelling spain with my partner and a friend of ours. They're both dead asleep and im browsing. Watched the video on mute and the guy doing the can opening had such amazing facial expressions (especially when puking) that I started uncontrollably laughing. First the laugh was silent, then that squeaky "trying not to laugh out loud" When your entire body is shaking, then full out laughing at the top of my lungs until I cried. My partner woke up and naturally wanted to see. So I played the video all over again and we both laughed until we cried, which woke our friend up for rewind number three. We never actually put the volume on but we died of laughter and I was still crying after the third time!
Highly recommend no volume and watch the guy opening the can intently. It's the perfect marriage ...
Oh man you have to watch it with sound ASAP.
First thing I watched this morning 😂
I had an ex that said the same thing. She had an amazing set too. Before, I had heard that really big ones were less sensitive. Not sure how true that is but it certainly didn’t apply to her. She was basically the only one I’ve been with that had that strong of a response though so I’m not sure how common it is.
I have DDs and my nips are insanely sensitive
So I was your daughter and my little sister was the child from hell that prematurely aged my mother.
All I have to say about that child and why your daughter's "parenting" works is: your youngest realizes that she can get your attention/exasperation and possibly thereafter what she wants if she bugs you enough- and trust me that will get way worse as she gets older. You need to stop getting annoyed/upset or at the very least stop showing it. When she acts that way do not give in. Keep calm and give consequences. My sister culminated in being absolutely relentless by the time she was 10, because she knew at some point our mother would give in. It will take a while but if you can keep your calm (and walk away even) you can regain control of the situation. She listens to your daughter because your daughter doesn't show weakness. Strong willed children need Strong, consistent parenting. Lucky for your there are plenty of books and online resources to help you learn how to do this!
Please please please visit Dragos. A restaurant just outside of Zocodover. The man who runs it is named Jesús. He is a great guy. It’s a great restaurant and perfect little bar. Spent many nights there from my time in Toledo.
If you have the time, go climb some of the hills around Toledo. There is a touristy spot where a bus stops and has a great view of Toledo. Don’t take it. Walk your way to just before the spot and there’s a hill you can climb with the best view of Toledo. If need be I will gladly draw up a walking map for you to find it. The hill Id say is a moderate challenge. For around a 20 year old, no problem. I have never seen more than five people up there.
Hey do you mind sending me the map?
This might be a question a student could answer better but what are nursing care plans like? Are they really that hard or just tedious?
I'm also a clinical educator and they are tedious/difficult at first because you hardly have any context. But once you've been a nurse for a few months even you will quickly realize that you basically careplan constantly and often without formally doing so. It becomes second nature and ties right in with the "nursing process" : ax, nsg dx, planning, implementation and evaluation.
I always laugh and cry a little inside when nurses proudly claim they haven't done a careplan since school. If your unit/workplace doesn't have you doing formal care plans it doesn't mean you aren't constantly doing the exact same thing without writing anything down. It's just second nature.
I was one of those until I had an lightbulb moment after my first year of practice.
Oh god. I have yet to encounter that, but I was unfortunate enough to have multiple patients with anal and/or rectal abscesses in my first semester of med/surg clinicals. :') I can handle those, but I would much prefer to not have to closely assess that area if I can avoid it. Still can't get over the awkwardness of being like "Okay, now I have to assess your butt; sorry!"
I've been an RN for 3 years now and I literally don't bat an eye at looking at bums now. Sometimes I start to roll em or ask them to remove their pants and have to stop myself and be like 'okay I'm going to do the wound care for you coccyx/perianal wound/whatever now, is that ok?'
Some of my patients (the young ones) will get flustered and im like 'no worries it doesn't even register to me that you're naked anymore, I've seen it all and I am NOT judging' . Lol
It absolutely feels different. Some women are tigher, some looser. Some wetter, some not as wet. Some have innies, some have outties.
Run your finger along the inside of your cheek. Now imagine this feeling around your entire finger. Now imagine your finger has at least 12 more nerve endings to allow you to feel it that much more.
Now do the same thing with a condom and realize why condoms are a terrible yet wonderful invention.
What do you mean by innie vs outie
Is there an r/outie i think they get my vote..
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Not your circus not your monkeys my friend.
This is where you need to push back and tell them the report you got stated he was d/c. If that wasn't the case then the fucking hospital should have done their job and called to give a damn report.
Any further info on the event? If you guys somehow get the swab kits I will come and swab right then and there.
Channel the emotional stuff into giving it Your all for your patients. That's what I did when I went through an extremely tough breakup during clinical. To be honest I feel it actually helped me to be more empathetic. Use your pain to fuel your desire to help others.
Their address is surprisingly on the 'contact us' part of the website. It's the same one.
Bleh this is gross all round
This would be a no from me, dawg
Or perhaps you get it and ONLY turn it on if you're going to be meeting up somewhere or one of you is leaving super later from somewhere etc.
But at 8 months in... her motives are likely not innocent.
You aren't the one with issues here.
Same here lol.
Awkward... 😅
Dang, as an educator I feel like I'm pretty respected but now I'm wondering what the real opinions are ... :O
I do lots of OT as an RN only for this very reason- don't want to get out of practice.
Oh wow your kitten and my kitten could be siblings.
I'm not really seeing what more you wanted. Can you elaborate?
So in my third year I did an inpatient psych rotation with a preceptor named "Olga". She was this mid-50's Russian woman who drank turmeric and hot water from a styrofoam cup every morning and was borderline abusive to her patients (not quite abusive, but definitely questionable in some of the shit she would say). As a student, I was kind of scared of her.
Lovely things that she did to me:
- Left me alone with our 4 patients for over an hour while she left the floor to socialize in the lobby and grab breakfast.
- Scolded me for not "taking initiative" when she came back to the unit and found me unsuccessful in getting our catatonically depressed bipolar I patient out of bed.
- Made me do everything with very little direction and then wrote PAGES of negative feedback to my instructor at midterm.
- Made me come in after the rotation was finished so that she could "give" me my final feedback form. Not only did she not do it by the deadline but made me go there on a day I had an exam (scheduled for a few hours later) because she was going on vacation the next day and it was "your only chance unless you want to fail". THEN SHE HADN"T EVEN WRITTEN THE DAMN THING. SHE MADE ME SIT WITH HER AND TELL HER WHAT TO WRITE HOLY F***
- Told me to do our new admission with zero guidance. SO I read another patient's admission notes from the psychiatrist which went over the social history, medical history, rx etc etc and wrote this gorgeous admission profile which she then told me to enter in error because "we're not doctors why would you do that".
- Had me do a suicide risk assessment on a late teen (first one with AGAIN no instruction or example) and then didn't check it and didn't observe the assessment- just entered it in...
- The cherry on the shit cake (of which there are many more layers of shit which my brain has blocked out/forgotten)--- I overheard her talking shit about me to the other nurses, saying "she definitely doesn't have what it takes. She's very lazy".
I've since been told more times than I can count what a great nurse I am by managers, colleagues and patients alike. Sorry to brag, but F*** you, Olga, if you're reading this. /rant
Oh and no I never reported her because I was scared to make waves. C'est la vie, but what a horrible person. I'm sure she's retired by now. Before my new job I precepted many students and new staff, and I always make it a point to be the complete opposite of her.
edit2- oh god, just creeped her facebook profile. Recent post headlines:
- "95% of violent conflicts around the world are muslim"
- "Big pharma admits they're just trying to kill people with vaccines"
Seriously, I couldn't make this up if I tried.
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