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So I've been dating the same guy for the past two and a half years, and he had a daughter from a previous marriage. The daughter spends half of the week with him and half with his ex-wife. She's 14 and from what I can tell she has never felt super close or comfortable sharing things with her biological mom. She latched onto me right away, though, and I've been her confidant for every embarrassing thing that's happened at school, every uncomfortable talk about periods, and every time there's boy drama.
This afternoon, her dad was still at work and I was driving her home from school, and she asked me if she could ask me a question, under the condition that I wouldn't tell her dad and I wouldn't judge her for it. She asked me to help her get birth control.
I have absolutely no idea. I'm not her biological mom, so I don't know if I have the moral right to do it for her without talking to her dad. I don't know if I can keep it a secret from the dad without potentially damaging our relationship, and I don't know if I should even be considering helping her look into birth control. Anyone have any advice?
By the way, this is the first time that I've ever posted on reddit, so please forgive me if I did anything wrong. I literally googled parenting and reddit to get me to this page, so if I'm in the wrong spot please let me know
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I feel like beating down somebody’s kid... She doesn’t even know this kids name and told me that she stood up for herself and said ‘I’m not fat.’ But she is a bigger kid, she is the tallest 2nd grader and bigger framed. I know his comment broke her heart. I need good advice. How do you tell your kids to handle these situations? She receives a ton of positive feedback at home but I know that doesn’t help while staring at a mean ass boy at recess.
So my daughter, who is 6, told me while i was giving her a shower the other night that only people from the 80s die. I responded with " hey, i was born in the 80s!" Her response was "no mom, not people born in the 80s. The people that are already big in the 80s."
Out of the mouth of babes.
We just happened to start watching storybots on Netflix and it’s actually really educational but also funny and interesting to watch as a parent.
My son is almost 4 and basically grew up on Disney junior and although those are great shows, after the millionth time watching pj masks I need something else.
The new ducktales was great, had a great story for the kid and the humor for the adults.
Any recommendations for similar programs?
Edit: thanks for all the suggestions
When he’s older I def plan on venturing into the gravity falls/ferb genre
I had no idea there were so many other shows out there for pre school age...guess I’ve been stuck in Disney jr land. We have started watching paw patrol and bubble guppies, but those get stale after a few eps
My son has been in the same church run daycare/preschool for about a year. At the time, we didn't love the place, but we were desperate because I needed to go back to work and it was the only place that would work with my part time schedule. (We didn't love it because it didn't seem as academic as others, but he was only two so we let it go).
He seems to really like it there. Most days he doesn't even say goodbye to me, he just runs into which ever room they have setup and starts playing. He seems to like some kids and teachers more than others, but that seems normal enough. He occasionally has rough/clingy mornings, but they are pretty rare and seem to correlate with story time on Fridays, but not every Friday.
I'm not sure if some of his new behaviors are unusual or just par for the course for a toddler/threenager. He never used to mind diaper changes, but started kicking and screaming during them sometimes after he started at the daycare. He's always been a strong willed kid, but screaming "I don't want to" and "put me down" are things he picked up at daycare for whatever reason. I thought it was odd that the church pastor would be reading to the kids sometimes when I dropped my kid off on Fridays, and even weirder that he sometimes had kids in his lap, but the teachers were always there, it was always a group activity with 10+ kids, and I was pretty much always running late so I didn't think much of it.
We had some concerns, but nothing concrete and more that our otherwise sweet boy was learning to hit/push than anything worse. Until today. We finish up dinner and I get the bath ready for our 1 year old, leaving the 3 year old at the dinner table with my husband. I'm minding my business, bathing the baby when my husband comes into the bathroom to relay something the 3 year old just did and said. It should be noted that our toddler doesn't yet speak in complete sentences or fully respond when asked questions (ex "what did you do at school today?" gets no answer while "did you paint at school today?" garners an appropriate "yep!" or "nope!"). Our toddler had finished his dinner and, after we had cleaned up his plate, he asked for peanut butter pretzels, one of his favorite snacks. Normally, we'd say no, but he'd been a good kid all day so my husband said "sure! But cheek kiss first" and leaned into our normally very affectionate kiddo. Our son slapped my husband across the face and said "no! Pretzels now!". Not great, but not out of the ordinary for him after a long day (we don't hit our kids, but he definitely struggles with hitting when he's frustrated). He did/said this twice and then said "get candy!". My husband said "no candy right now" and then asked "do you get candy at school?" expecting him to say "no". Our son then grabbed two of my husband's fingers, rubbed the tips with his fingers several times, said "it's round, it's round" and then licked them repeatedly. He did this several times. (Just typing this is making me nauseous again). My husband asked if that's how he got candy and our son repeated the behavior/motion and then put his finger to his lips and said "shhhh!", then put his other pointer finger to my husband's lips and said "shhhh!" (We only ever use "shhh" to comfort them when crying and have never put our fingers to his or our lips). My husband tried to gently ask more questions, but our son just mumbled nonsense and then asked to get out of his highchair.
My husband came and told me immediately and we got the baby out of the tub, and tried to talk to the toddler again, but he'd moved on and just wanted to go sit on the couch. We didn't know what to do (this was around 730pm), so we called local PD dispatch and they sent over an officer who just told us to speak to the director of the school.
I've tried searching this sub and others and have come across a few sort of related posts, but I have no idea what to do. Local resources open in the morning, and we have already told our workplaces that we won't be in tomorrow due to a family emergency, but we don't know where to start. I can't in good conscience send him back there again.
Are we overreacting? Do we just confront the director? How do we handle this? I obviously don't know what or who exactly, but this definitely seems off. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
Edit:
First, thanks to everyone for their supportive messages and comments and for taking the time to reply. We are truly blown away by your kindness and thoughtful words. We are also very grateful for all of the advice.
Second, an update. Our son didn't go to the school today and will not return in the future. We didn't contact the school and we don't plan to at all. We'll be out our deposit, but it's worth it at this point. I have another center that we will be touring next week, but we are also prepared for me to stay home with the kiddos for awhile.
This morning my husband called CPS and they said they only handle situations where the abuser is in the home. Next, he called the state licensing board and filed a complaint. The school has an otherwise squeaky clean record, but we were assured they would be opening up an investigation and interviewing every employee at the school. Finally, we called and then visited the local family advocacy center (basically relevant charities, social workers, law enforcement, etc under one roof). We met with a social worker and recounted the same points as above. When she was done taking notes, she called one of the onsite detectives who confirmed that without actual evidence (ie a verbal description of something from our son or physical evidence), there was nothing he could do. Without the cops getting involved, we will not be referred to a forensic psychologist or have the situation otherwise escalated. As frustrating as that is, we are almost fortunate in a way that that type of evidence doesn't seem to exist (or that we stepped in before it did). As many of you said, both the detective and the social worker agreed that the cop that came by yesterday handled it very poorly, but that there was nothing they could do about that either. The social worker mentioned that our son seemed to be a happy kid, not the withdrawn or angry type she's seen in more serious situations. We were referred to a center that specializes in play based therapy that we will be following up with as well. If anything comes out during those sessions, the situation will be handed over to the authorities at that time.
I think that covers everything that happened today. My husband had to go back to work so I've been at home on the couch cuddling my kiddos. If there are any developments, I'll update again, but that is it for now.
Thank you again for everything, Reddit. You truly came through in our time of need ❤️
as the title says I have split from my partner and I will be moving in with my brother 100 miles away literally and need to explain to my 7 year old but don't know where to start. any advice greatly appreciated sorry if this is the wrong sub reddit for this I don't use reddit much but don't really have anyone to talk to for advice
Edit: Thank you all for your kind words, and for all your advice. leaving my son will be the hardest thing I will ever do and I know it's gonna be just as tough on him. hearing from you guys has given my some clarity and has helped tremendously!
I became a father quite late. I’m 55 now, and my son is only 3. It means that when he turns 21, I’ll be… oh my God … 73 years old! Considering my medical condition, I don’t think I’ll long enough to reach that age, much less to see him get married or get kids. If he was 21 now, we’d be such a great father-son combo! But in 20 years I’ll be just an old sock capable of nothing... But even I stay in the right mind, I’m afraid with such a huge difference in age we’ll never get close enough to properly enjoy our time together… I mean, I’m concerned that we would just drift apart and never experience the tight bond younger parents experience with their kids.
So, what do I do if I die early? How do I make a difference and leave something for my child to remember me by? What can I do now, in sound mind? I’m a bit old fashioned, when it comes to gadgets, but maybe there’s a technology I can use?
I need some advice. My 11-year-old son has been living with his dad since he was 3 because my husband was in the Air Force and got stationed a state over.
His dad pretty much let him do whatever he wanted while he was at his house. He only had rules when he came to mine. He’s now 11 and decided to come live with me and go to school this year. His uncle got him a laptop for school and I turned on the phone line on my old iPhone so that he would have a way to talk to his dad.
He lost his iPhone privileges due to not turning in assignments at school. My husband decided to go through his iPhone and found out he’s been on a “role play” app called Amino, sexting back and forth with friends. Never as graphic as you might expect, but saying stuff like “I would never be a top” and “I moan as I slide my hand up your leg and bite your lip”. It’s all r/creepypms material, honestly.
So obviously he’s lost his phone. He also gets to use his laptop for school only, and only at the dining room table. I had a long talk with him and told him that I’m very disappointed with him and that the phone was a privilege for a mature young adult and he hasn’t been one so he’s lost it until he can handle the responsibility. He cried and said he was very sorry.
I guess I just need advice. Am I handling this the right way? Should I do things differently? Because he just started living with me, I feel like I’m automatically having to deal with big issues even though I didn’t get to build up to this over the years. I also realize that internet is part of our world and I can’t shelter him from it forever, but for the love of God, 11? It just seems so early to have to start dealing with this. I need some help here. Thanks in advance!
TL;DR My 11-year-old has been having inappropriate conversations and I need advice on how to handle it.
Edit: spelling
Edit 2: I need to clarify that these “friends” are not friends from school. They are people he met on this role playing app and he doesn’t know them IRL. Forgot to mention that detail, but I feel it’s important.
My lo (10weeks)has entered a very period where it is either colic or separation anxiety. This is not her normal crying, it is out and out screaming (tears streaming down her face) for hours and hours after my wife leaves. I have had her to the doctors (they say she is fine, just colic or something) and my parents along with other parents help when they can, but other than some pity 'yeah, never saw a baby that bad' I am here on my own tonight with her screaming in my face and tears streaming down.
I feel so bad for her, as there is nothing I can do short of sometimes going for a drive to calm her down (temporarily) but the big thing too is how do I not get angry or frustrated (which admittedly I sometimes feel twinges of) with this problem I can't solve and help my own daughter?
I have a 15 year old son that I have no idea how to continue to parent. He has stole money from us on a few occasions, we lock everything up now.. We have had to buy a safe to lock up all IPads, Laptops, remote controls, the Xbox, phones, etc when hes grounded from them and / or when hes suppose to go to bed. Otherwise he will play them all night and will refuse to get up in the morning. We have to argue with him to get him to do anything. Go to sleep at night, get up and go to school, do homework, clean his room, come home after school when hes suppose to, not leave food in his room that hes not suppose to have anyway. Literally anything. He failed in school and his teachers have said it's for no other reason than he just doesnt do the work. I've taken everything out of his room, he has no privileges. He constantly sneaks food in his room. I've has to purchase school lunches as oppose to letting him take look lunch like he wants because of I buy a 50 pack of chips he will eat them all in a weekend. I have to lock up what little treats we keep in the house. He lies about everything. I've tried psychological testing it found nothing, IQ testing was normal. Medical tests were normal. Couseling hasn't worked. My husband his stepfather and myself have tried everything we can think of. Grounding, rewarding good behavior. Taking things away and I mean everything with the exception of clothing, food, and a bed. Bribing him with money and rewards, gaming time, time with friends for good behavior even the simplest things such as getting himself up when his alarm goes off. Chore charts, reward charts. Contracts, typing up rules and rewards. Nothing has worked. He just doesnt seem to care about anything. He biological father isn't around and my husband and I are lost.
He’s 6. He goes to a Public school that is encouraging parents to buy their official school uniforms. It’s polo shirts that have the schools name and emblem on the side. I bought five of those, one per week. I did so because they handed out flyers and wrote on their site they wanted everyone to have those by sept. They made it seem like a mandatory thing. Anyways it’s the second week of school and only about 1/5th of the students are going to school in them. Some are showing up with the old uniform instead of the new one. Teachers aren’t enforcing it. The staff couldn’t care less. It’s a total shit show of a small bunch actually trying to do what was asked. My son being one of them. Today he was in tears telling me he didn’t want to use the uniform anymore because “it’s ugly, no one else in my class is wearing this!” I didn’t even get him back to school tees or anything because i figured I didn’t need to. Now he’s crying and saying for me to please take him school shopping for tees and stuff. Ugh...what would you guys do?
Update: Thank you to the kind and intelligent ladies and gents that gave me advice and suggestions. I did talk this over with my son after coming home from school. I told him he doesn't need to wear the uniform if he doesn't want to and we hugged and i asked him if he was being singled out by anyone in his class because of the uniform. He said no but that he just feels weird being the only kid using it, plus he says the fabric is itchy and makes him sweat apparently. So that's where we are...I also plan on talking casually to the teacher about it to see what she thinks.
Trying to get an putside perspective here, I may be overreacting I'm not sure. Tonight my wife gave our 3.5 month old a taste of ice cream when we were out with family. About a month ago she also gave her a taste of frosting. I don't see the point of it at all. I feel like she is doing it because it makes her her happy. I didnt say anyrhing to her because if I do I will be the asshole, no matter how I say it. My wife is overweight and doesnt have great eating habits. Am I over reacting by telling her to stop? Is it harmless? Next dr appt I want to bring it up and see what the pediatrician says. Any advicr is appreciated thanks
Tonight on my way to work there was an Amber Alert for a girl only a year older than my daughter who has very similar features to hers, I could feel my heart break for the parents of this child. I don't know if this lands in any of the topics for this group, but I just feel like everybody should take a moment of their day to appreciate their children because things like this are scary. There's no doubt that this little girl is going to be on my mind and I hope and pray that they find her and that their family is reunited.
I am in desperate need of advice. My husband and I (27, 30) have 3 kids (2, 6, 9) and we also both have severe ADHD/ executive function disorder. We work during the day and I work from home in the evening... and we CANNOT keep the house clean. There is always two laundry baskets of clean laundry waiting to be folded, two baskets of dirty laundry, dishes in the sink, food around the house.
We know that a cluttered house messes everyone up and stresses us out but it is so, incredibly hard to do these chores every day. We don’t have the kids on a chores system because hell, we don’t even have a chores system so we don’t know how to make and enforce one. Anything that involves analyzing a multiple step task and then actually doing it from start to finish is so draining that it just doesn’t happen every day.
I need REALISTIC advice- premade systems, mantras, really easy ideas of how to make this work. The reason I want to put this in parenting is because kids make a huge mess and the exhaustion that happens with the both of us at the end of the day is different from what other young couples go through. Also, the kids are used to the house being like this and I know someone out there must have had success changing their systems as a family. Thanks for any ideas and support.
My son started kindergarten a month ago. He's been in preschool since he was two so he knows how to behave as much as any five, almost six year old can in social situations. He's also a pretty good kid too. My husband and I are realistic about his behavior and correct it when he is being a little shit. However he has never been in trouble at school and has always been praised by his teachers for being very sweet and polite. He's also the very tender hearted child who thinks EVERYONE is his friend. (Husband's an my motto is, "We don't care about having the smartest kid, just the one who loves."
So to the root of the issue... a couple weeks after the semester started the school had a night for parents about expectations and curriculum. While I was there I noticed a behavior chart: It was separated into four parts, the best being blue, next being green, then yellow, and red being the worst. All the kids were on green, except one was on yellow and another on red. I noted the name of the kid on red (lets call him James) and went about the rest of my night.
Every day he comes home my son talks about what he did on the playground and in class. He has a bad habit of gossping, "XYZ got in trouble today." "XYZ made bad choices." To which I tell him, "Buddy, mind your business and stay in your own lane." At the last school it was a little girl, at this school, or at least his class it is James. Every day he comes home saying James got in trouble. Today when I was picking him up he said he was playing with James, who almost punched him. He then said the kid got put in penalty box during P.E.
So my question is this: How do I tell him not to hang out or play with James? He really doesn't understand discretion, and I know once I tell him he can't play with James he'll go right up to him and say something. Honestly I don't want a confrontation with the mom, but I really want my son to not be influenced by the seemingly class trouble maker.
Help.
Last year, my daughter attended a three day a week preschool program. She loved it. She was the only one in her class on the first day of school not to cry. She ran into the classroom with such excitement and adventure. I’ve never had an issue dropping her off. She would tell me all about preschool down to who was absent to who she sat next to at snack time to what activities they did.
This year, she’s in a four day a week pre-k program. She is 4 years old. It’s supposed to prep them for kindergarten next year. For the past two weeks, my daughter has clung to me, cried, told me not to leave her at drop off. She doesn’t want to go to school. She says she hates school. I’ve been asking for days why and she shrugs it off. Today, she told me why.
She said that her teacher has a lot of rules and things she was allowed to do last year, they’re not allowed to do this year. They’re not allowed to play tag because you are not allowed to touch others. She doesn’t understand why she was allowed to play tag on the playground last year but not this year. She said there was no jumping off a big loft structure (it’s a big wooden structure that is a playhouse with a flat roof where you can play and slide down a slide. I told her that made sense so no one could get hurt. She said they can’t even jump up and touch the roof of the loft. Calendar/circle time is different. You have to put the calendar stuff on the wall (I’m not exactly sure how this is different but it makes her upset this rule is in place). She said they play less and do “chores”. She said that her teacher told them they have to follow the rules. If they don’t follow her rules, she won’t be a happy teacher. If they don’t follow her rules, they’re not allowed to come back to school.
She’s petrified of breaking a rule and says it’s no fun because she’s afraid of being in trouble and having a mean teacher. She said she wants to go to a new school and have a new teacher.
What do I say? What do I do? As she grows up, there are naturally going to be new rules and different rules for school. She’s absolutely miserable in her pre-k class. I don’t want her to start to resent school since she loved it so much last year. I’m at a loss of how to handle this.
So me and my girldriend have been dating a little over a year now. We are talking about marriage but here lately it seems im the only one doing anything around the house, the discipline for her kids drives me up the wall because I was raised in an old fashion setting and she just folds to get the kid to stop crying. I'm the bread winner and have voiced my opinionyconcerns about my thoughts/opinions not being adressed or even considered but then she and the school use me as a threat of disciplone to the child to get him to behave. Her kid (5yr male) I feel will be the demise of the relationship, I have no problem with her 1.5 yr old daughter. Im unsure if his attempts at bad behavior are due to be now being in the picture and past experiences with her boyfriends always left him alone or what. How do i address this without a fight ensuing?
My 3 year old boy just started school today. In the school bus on the way back from School he tried to open the emergency exit, didn't listen to the driver, threw all his stuff from the backpack to everywhere. Any suggestions from anyone who may have faced similar issue? I think company of another child is aggravating or triggering him to do this type of things. Asked the school to make them sit far apart. I will talk to my child today, will explain him how he should behave. Any other suggestions anyone can offer would be highly appreciated.
As the title says, my five year old daughter has recently made a couple of drawings that were a bit concerning and I'd like to know where this behavior falls on the spectrum of what's normal and what needs therapy/counseling or other form of intervention/guidance.
A little backstory about her: She has always struck us as a VERY empathetic and nurturing child. From an early age the feelings of others have mattered to her. She even worries about the feelings of inanimate toys that she feels particularly bonded with. But she has also always been very moody and angry. She also has diagnosed SPD. She is ordinarily one of the most well-behaved children in our circle of kids but she absolutely has her moments of flying off the handle.
A few months ago my daughter had a run-in with my wife over something that neither she nor I can remember. My daughter became very angry so we allowed her to go "take a break" in her room to cry and feel better so that we could talk about her feelings when she's calm. This is how we always handle episodes or tantrums.
When she had calmed I spoke to her about what had transpired, asked her what her feelings were, explained what she'd done wrong and what she needed to do in the future. During this calm meeting she presented me with a drawing she'd just made that depicted my wife but with a large X drawn over her. When I asked what it meant she said something along the lines of "I was angry and mommy is bad".
I didn't think much of it. My wife and I actually both laughed about it. I think we told her that drawing your feelings was a healthy way to express them but that she should always remember that mommy is good and nice.
Fast forward to this week when my daughter and wife had another run-in. My daughter had been very difficult all day and eventually she kept spraying my wife and baby son with water despite my wife telling her to stop several times. My daughter refused to stop and my wife sent her inside for not listening. My daughter began a massive tantrum which I heard from inside the house. When I came out my daughter was hysterical and I couldn't understand her words so I sent her to her room to "take a break" and feel better so I could talk to her about what happened.
While she was in there I got the story from my wife then went into my bedroom where I could hear my daughter muttering to herself on the baby monitor. I tried to pick up on some of it but I couldn't make out anything more than angry muttering with spiteful emphasis on "mommy!" and "daddy" something about "my life!".
When my daughter was calm and I spoke to her she told me she "X'ed out mommy" in a drawing. I thought she was referring to the previous one. I told her that it wasn't nice but that she would probably have those kind of moments and feelings toward mommy and with me. I told her she should try using her drawings to create an apology card for mommy like the one she made for me recently instead of mean drawings like that. (She and I had not gotten along a few days prior and she ran to her room to make me an apology card with a picture of she and I holding hands). She told me "I never do drawings where I cross you out". When I asked "why just mommy?" she said "because you don't stay mad so long".
Again, I didn't think much of this. She took my advice and made an apology card for mommy and the matter was settled.
Then, today, my wife found the new drawing of her "X'ed" out that I'd assumed was talk of the previous. She showed it to me. Like the first one, it was a child's drawing of a happily smiling woman with a big X across her face. The disturbing difference in this one, however, was my daughter's use of a red crayon to draw blood on my wife's leg.
When I had a chance I pretended to randomly find the drawing and asked my daughter what it was. She said it was from the other day when she was mad at mommy. I asked what it meant and she told me it meant that "mommy was mean" or "mad" or "bad"... something like that. I asked about the red on mommy's leg and she told me that it was mommy's "owie". I asked how mommy got the "owie" in the drawing and she became a bit disinterested. She said that mommy scraped it or hurt it on something. Then she claimed she actually didn't draw it as an owie and was just saying that. Very aloof, rather unaffected. I didn't know what to think...
Later, I followed up more. I asked if she drew the owie on mommy because she was mad at her. At first she denied it but, when I told her she wasn't in trouble and I just wanted to know what her thoughts were, she admitted that she did. I asked if she ever had thoughts that she wanted mommy to be hurt. She said "sometimes". My heart sank! I didn't know what to say. I think I said "wouldn't it be bad if mommy were hurt?" Trying to dodge the question (as she often does when she's annoyed by my lectures) she annoyedly said "yeah". I said wouldn't it be bad if you were hurt?" and she said "that would be even worse". I told her she needs to focus on the nice things about mommy.
Then she said "I think you are scolding me! You're scolding me!" I was afraid of scaring her out of her willingness to be truthful so I let up and we went about our night but the whole thing has left me very unsettled. What should I do? Does drawing owies on mommy and admitting to thoughts like this "sometimes" sound even REMOTELY normal? Or is this a "get counseling ASAP" situation?
Any help is appreciated. Thank you!
My two and a half year old daughter use the potty for a month and now stopped using it only at home.
If we drop her off at aunt's she uses it with no accidents. Today I asked her if she needed to go potty she said no then ran in our bedroom to a corner and wet herself right after I asked.
So, I’m thinking about enrolling my son in some martial arts.
However, I’m clueless what type of classes he can take.
Or is there a class that he can take that can teach to respect others, calm when feeling enraged (Tai chi?!), and easy to pick up, tolerable teachers that can handle a very active and talkative 4 year old.
Not necessarily a physical sport, but a mental sport.
Okay, so, uh I am engaged to a dude who has two kids (11 and 13), his kids have always gotten him birthday/father's day/Christmas gifts. Now that the parents are split up their mother is no longer coordinating this (I assume she did before) and the kids aren't giving gifts. They should be, right? I feel like they are old enough to be giving gifts. He doesn't care about getting stuff, but feels hurt they aren't even spending a few minutes picking out something for him. His ex hates my fiance and resents him even spending time with their kids let alone facilitating them having any sort of relationship with him.
So is it my responsibility to coordinate this? I don't have alone time with them so it's not like I can take them to the store to get something or brainstorm gifts ideas. He certainly doesn't want to demand gifts but this seems to be a basic common courtesy they should be taught. I'm also coming into their lives at an age where I don't really have much authority over them (not that I want it) so I don't feel comfortable telling them what to do. Help??
My son just diagnosed with hand foot and mouth disease. Hes 1. Been miserable all week and then this morning the rash started. Now my 4 year old daughter has it and im trying to do everything to calm them down. My daughter is actually fine with it but its everywhere on my son (in his mouth nose ect) and its not fun. Although he seems a bit more energetic tonight
This afternoon I started feeling really crummy. Almost flu like. Sneezing runny nose aches and only a 99.8 temperature. Thing is im itchy as heck. No rashes or anything. I was under the impression adults couldn’t catch it? So im not fully sure what I have. Any other parents have issues with this?
Thanks
So my son has a neighborhood friend. The kids isn’t bad per se, but he just doesn’t listen.
An example: one day the kids kept yelling. I asked them to stop and my son did. However, he didn’t stop. He then said something to the effect “You’re not the boss of me.” I reminded him he was a guest in our house and I asked him to stop.
There hasn’t been any incidents as bad, but there are numerous occasions of him just disregarding our rules or ignoring us when we ask him to do stuff.
How do other parents handle this?
I have a 3 year old son who's just super slim.
His waist can fit most 24 month sized pants, but he's a 3t in leg length.
He has 2 pairs of pants with the elastic/buttons inside the waistband, but those are generally fairly expensive, and I haven't found any toddler sized sweats or joggers with an actual drawstrings.
Also, any good skinny/slim cut pants? I hate how big/baggy the legs of even the pants that fit in the waist look.
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