I've had a lot of interviews over the past 5 years and never had such an experience with an interviewer.

I had an interview yesterday and we started by chatting casually about the work. He would ask a question, then I would answer, then he would say "Oh, that didn't answer my question, let me rephrase". This continued for all of the questions.

Then we got to a technical question, coding, and after I completed working on the code he said "Other candidates would have gone through the problem much faster and to be honest - your code is messy".

Is being a jerk a new interview technique to test candidates emotionally or did I mess up really bad?

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Or you did great but their plan is to "low-ball" your value. – Sandra K 18 hours ago
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"..is being a jerk a new lame interview technique to test candidates emotionally or I messed up really bad?" - It can be no one can tell for sure best would be to just answer questions politely and keep calm. – newguy 18 hours ago
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We can't possibly know. Maybe this person is simply a jerk. Maybe they have a strategy making you feel like crap, and feel super lucky for getting an offer from them, and thus accept a smaller salary. Overall, I would say that you should always remain self-confident, keep your self-worth in mind, and consider yourself lucky for not having to deal with such BS on a daily basis. I would have called this person out by the end of it, but that's just me. For yourself, consider how you might respond to such an interviewer in the future, and do not regret not getting an offer from them. – AndreiROM 17 hours ago
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Other candidates would have gone through the problem much faster - then why not hire the other candidates? – Brandin 16 hours ago
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Keep in mind that an interview always goes both sides. If you feel uncomfortable with the way you were treated during the interview, consider how it would be working with this person and whether you really want to work there. – Llewellyn 16 hours ago
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We can't possibly know what drove this person to make those comments. Maybe he is simply a jerk on a power-trip. Maybe the company has a strategy of making you feel like crap, and thus feel super lucky for getting an offer from them, for a smaller salary than you requested.

Overall, I would say that you should always try to separate the interviewer's behavior from your own self-image. You don't know what's driving them to say those things, so don't automatically accept their criticism on yourself as an honest assessment of your talent and performance (although some criticism might be warranted, and you should be open minded enough to recognize and act on objective advice to improve).

Remain self-confident, and keep your self-worth in mind. In this particular case I would add that you should also consider yourself lucky for not having to deal with such BS on a daily basis.

Personally, I would have called this person out by the end of it, but that's just me. For yourself, consider how you might respond to such an interviewer in the future, and do not regret not getting an offer from them.

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Two other possibilities were he was testing your reaction to stress or he was personally upset about something unrelated and it bled over into this. In any event, I personally would probably pass on an opportunity after having to deal with someone one like this at the interview. Jerks don't stop being jerks. – HLGEM 15 hours ago
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@HLGEM - thought about the idea of "testing reaction to stress" as a possibility. A truly idiotic and self-defeating one, because the reaction could very well be the candidate, who can handle the stress, has no desire to work for jerks, but a possibility. – PoloHoleSet 15 hours ago
    
I'm not saying he wasn't a jerk no matter what the reason, just that there are many reasons why someone is a jerk. However, jerks in general are not great to work with or for. – HLGEM 13 hours ago
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I think the "stress test" scenario is very unlikely. If I were to do something like that to someone (I wouldn't, but bear w/ me), then I would, at the very end, explicitly apologize and explain that my behavior had been a strategy to see how he'd react to different situations, etc. Clearly, that did not happen, so the simplest explanation wins: either a tactic to "low-ball" people or just a jerk; maybe just a jerk/bad day – ray 6 hours ago
    
you don't need to be a jerk to make someone feel super lucky. Instead you can spam social networks about difficult to pass interview complains. – GameDeveloper 3 hours ago

This behaviour is highly unprofessional and likely indicative of the workplace culture at this company. If he's comfortable behaving this way in front of total strangers during a job interview, I highly doubt that he behaves any better with his colleagues (and particularly his subordinates) in the office. I would definitely not be accepting an offer after an interview like this - I'd rather remain unemployed than work for this guy.

It's sometimes easy to forget that the interview process goes both ways. You need a job to pay your bills, yes, but also they need someone to do this work. Otherwise, they wouldn't be hiring at all.

I wouldn't explicitly confront this guy about his behaviour - I strongly suspect that doing so would only be met with denial or mockery. However, I would make it clear at the end (in a polite manner) that I am not interested in continuing with the interview process. Something like "Thank you for your time, but I am no longer interested in pursuing this job opportunity. Good day."

If he asks why, I would probably say something like "After concluding the interview process, I'm not convinced that this company is the sort of workplace I'm looking for." And leave it at that.

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I need a job, it doesn't have to be this one. – Leliel 11 hours ago
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The answer to "unprofessional behaviour" isn't "more unprofessional behaviour". After making that sort of comment, what do you do when the interviewer says "That's fine - there was no chance we would have made you any offer in any case." Never start a fight unless you know you will win it! – alephzero 9 hours ago
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Never say you need a job. "I have shitloads of savings, and could practically retire right now, so I'm taking my sweet time to find an enjoyable job with great people". – Kaz 8 hours ago
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@Kaz Reminds me of a certain story... – QPaysTaxes 4 hours ago

"Other candidates would have gone through the problem much faster and to be honest your code is messy".

My reply would be "I hope you will make an offer that is commensurate with my speed and the quality of my code. If we disagree then you'll have to find someone who agrees with your offer".

He is using a strategy that doesn't work. If you are good at what you are doing and confident then his strategy will backfire. With that remark, he would have to pay at the top of my range to make me start with the company, and we would both know that he lost.

If you are not good at what you are doing and not confident, then best case he gets an employee who isn't very good, and who has been set up for failure.

I'd take the opportunity to practice making high demands. You don't want to work for them for cheap, so think what salary would convince you to start despite this guy's behaviour, and ask for that.

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Am I missing some sarcasm here? Interviewer says "you suck at coding" and you respond with "I hope you will pay me accordingly"? – whrrgarbl 14 hours ago
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@whrrgarbl Not the full story. The response says: "interviewer says 'you suck at coding' when in truth they mean: 'not bad at all - but this guy looks like his confidence can be shaken and we may get him for 20-30% less'". It is, of course, the precisely wrong strategy for a good coder with a healthy self-confidence who just may be a little introvert. It may also be a strategy if the interviewee is really weak and the interviewer fears a complaint by the candidate and wants to make sure that he can reject the candidate for incompetence. Only the interviewer (and possibly the OP) can know. – Captain Emacs 14 hours ago
    
@whrrgarbl: "I hope you will pay me according to the quality of the work". If he says that my coding sucks then we both know he is talking nonsense. – gnasher729 13 hours ago
    
Ah, I definitely misunderstood the tone you were going for. Makes more sense now, thanks! – whrrgarbl 12 hours ago
    
My first thought on an answer to the question was that it means I would not take the job. Using the job for negotiating practice is creative. – Patricia Shanahan 10 hours ago

You will see this from time to time. Don't sweat it.

Assuming that you are competent and can do the job well, I would take rudeness as a hint and run.

I like to tell stories, so here are a few that may help you understand that everyone goes through these kinds of insults.

Background: I am a retired systems internals engineer and consulted to Digital Equipment Corporation and wrote quite a few important components of their operating system. I often wrote in assembly and machine code. As well, I was an expert for quite a few operating systems for other computer companies throughout the years consulting for others such as IBM, Wang, and Microsoft, as well as all the major telecoms, pharmaceuticals, the World Bank and the IMF transferring more money each than the Federal Reserve. I worked for DEC Labs, Bell Labs, and BT labs. I worked as a consultant for 30 years and was asked to do computer forensics for recovery, discovery, and systems compatibility. I was often asked to testified in court and my testimony often caused the opposition to either quit or compromise. As well, I was given many failed projects to fix or work on including one that earned $250 million per month. I do not say this to brag. I say this so that you know that I brought resources to the table and incapable was not in my vocabulary.

One place gave me a test to take and then told me I did not have the aptitude for the job or even within IT. I had just come to them from DEC (Digital Equipment Corporation) as a request to help them.

Another gave me a test and because I stated that because I would never create a FAT file system for Windows NT that I was incompetent. This company failed six weeks later.

After more than a year of replacing Microsoft Mail with Exchange Servers for large global organizations with Microsoft as the customer, I was told by an IT manager for a bank that I was not qualified to run their Exchange Server. I did not call them. It was suggested that they call me by Microsoft.

New management for a company told me that I was not a strong technical employee. I was recruited as one of the worlds 5 top DEC experts. All the while I consulted to DEC (Digital Equipment Corporation) to fix customer issues when they could not figure it out. I consulted to DEC as a world expert of their systems and operating systems helping development teams sort out details they did not understand. I wrote assembly and machine code routinely for DEC, had written several components of their OS, and routinely performed high profile large scale installs and upgrades for the companies customers selling more equipment as a result than any salesman they had. I even worked for DEC Labs and Bell Labs at the time.

One kept calling me in for and interview. I had already met with two VP level managers who specifically wanted me to fix the problem and knowing my reputation only called me to do the work. The local IT manager clearly had infrastructure issues that forced him to reschedule 7 times each time commuting 40 minutes there and 40 minutes back. At the end, without an interview, he declared that I was not a strong enough candidate to take on the task. The local IT manager was fired soon after.

One interviewed me and told me I was not qualified for the position, however, his boss insisted on interviewing everyone. So he went to get his boss, who turned the corner and said, "You're hired!" after seeing me from the end of a long hall. Why? Because I worked for his previous company fixing their global e-mail system which could not deliver e-mail within 24 hours. I did this in just three weeks by fixing and then replacing their e-mail system globally for Microsoft.

I was a "friend of the bank" to The World Bank and the IMF who had recently hired a new IT manager and told him to call me without delay to fix a specific problem. He did call and told me that I charged too much and hung up. I priced myself at half my normal rate. He was fired after just one week as a result.

I worked for a global telecom where I managed the hardware and portions of development for a project that earned $250 million per month. One member of the team changed teams that later merged as a result of a merger between company subsidiaries. I was to be offered a management position in charge of the project and the former team member refused to offer me the package. I was a consultant, he was an employee. He told HR I refused the offer and took my job. Then he stole personal software from me. Then he said he was separating the wheat from the chaff and tried to sever my contract. Meanwhile, I continued to manage much of the project, travel for the company, and spec and build systems for dozens of projects along with offering development expertise winning awards. In the end, he was fired for fraud and an audit could only find %40 of the equipment he purchased. Keep in mind that equipment purchases were always into the many millions of dollars. I continued to consult to the company fixing high profile failed projects for 6 years and became good friends with the CEO and Chairman of the Board because of my performance.

I came in to an organization as an expert of DEC systems and Ross Systems to solve an upgrade issue that was a complete show stopper. If you do not know Ross Systems, it is extremely complex and huge and requires a ridiculous amount of detail to understand. After three weeks diagnosing code and fixing quite a bit of it for Ross Systems who asked me to take on the take for their customer, Ross Systems rolled my code into place for all of their customers. One other consultant who I previously hired to manage the business aspects of an association and had no technical expertise at all came into the office and told them I was incompetent. Really? I just fixed their airport management system which managed several airports and got them out of a serious legal jam.

I could go on and on. And you get my point. As long as you are professional, knowledgeable, and competent, do not let what people say effect you. Just be confident in your worth and never over-sell yourself so that you can always take on a new task with assurance of success. Just do good work. Plain and simple. That is how I succeeded and had a wonderful work life that I would not ever trade. A friend of mine often said (in latin), Do not let the bastards get you down. I suggest the same for you. Cheers!!

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Thank you so much for sharing that with us. Such an inspiring and empowering story. – norbertpy 4 hours ago
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@norbertpy Thank You! I was Blessed to accidentally fall into IT after planning to either be an electrical engineer (EE) or a structural engineer. IT suited how my brain works perfectly. So I followed how my brain was wired and did not stray. It served me well. Do what you do best and things will fall into place like they did for me. Cheers Mate!! – closetnoc 4 hours ago
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Your personal story is fine and interesting, but turned your answer into a wallpost, with the same concept repeated over and over again. I feel it would be better by only using a couple examples and removing the rest. – BgrWorker 3 hours ago
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@BgrWorker: this is not a wall of text. – progo 52 mins ago

Well it means that if you go over there you are going to have a very bad time. I am currently working in a company where when i was interviewed I was interviewed by a man who was very rude and did not understand anything that i was saying. The money they offered was good so I went to their place. Later on I find out that i have to work with the same guy. I have never been in a place more stressful than this in my life. I would advise you to run away while you can and never look back

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"Oh, that didn't answer my question, let me rephrase". This continued for all of the questions.

I don't think this is rude at all. It seems like an honest attempt to assess what you know. As for the fact it happened with every question, perhaps you were misinterpreting his questions, or you went off on a tangent, or maybe the two of you were just on a different wavelength.

If he actually thought your answers were bad or that you didn't know the answer, he wouldn't bother to rephrase. It would be a waste of time for both of you.

"Other candidates would have gone through the problem much faster and to be honest - your code is messy"

This, on the other hand, is unproductive. I don't know what he was trying to achieve by saying this. "Be faster and less messy" is a fairly meaningless statement on its own. That hasn't helped you.

Highlighting what they perceive as your deficiencies is not necessarily a bad thing, if phrased delicately. If they tell you to work on a specific aspect of your programming, that gives you something to work towards, whether you get the job or not. Comparing you to other candidates does not help you. You have no control over who else has applied.

If your code did not meet his standards, whatever they were, he probably should have just concluded the interview and thanked you for your time.


I would like to reiterate what others have said: if an interview leaves you feeling uncomfortable, the place probably isn't for you. Don't be afraid to turn jobs down. You deserve to have a job you enjoy.

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