Awesome Tip To Beat Depression - Garden in Water Bottles

skyqween · 2016-04-06T02:18:10+00:00

This kind of solution/fix oriented video is better suited to /r/GetMotivated or /r/getting_over_it - we're here for peer support, rather than 'here this will help'.

skyqween · 2016-04-05T20:53:22+00:00

Please go over the subreddit rules, they're on the sidebar. We don't allow advertising yourself as a helper.

skyqween · 2016-04-05T19:24:43+00:00

As /u/SQLwitch said, we are working on the weekly posts idea. The sticky is correct in that the mod team is working on the matter. We still see the additional comments that come up, which is part of why we haven't removed the sticky.

skyqween · 2016-04-05T02:23:45+00:00

If you see something that breaks the rules, please report it. We only know there is a problem if someone let's us know.

skyqween · 2016-04-05T02:19:12+00:00

There is no way to truly disable downvoting. At best, subreddits can hide the downvote button with subreddit styles. However this is something that does not end up applying to all users (people who use mobile wouldn't have the downvote button hidden), and is exceedingly easy to work around.

Being downvoted hurts. No one is denying that, but imagine how hurtful it would be to not only be downvoted, but to see that your post was downvoted when there wasn't even a button. Pretending that something we don't like isn't there doesn't make it stop existing. Since we cannot actually disable downvoting, we aren't going to pretend that the downvote button isn't there.

If in the future the admins actually make disabling the downvote function an option (rather than simply hiding it), the mod team will revisit the matter.

skyqween · 2016-04-04T07:01:36+00:00

Having the police knock on your door at 3 am is a singularly terrifying experience that... well, it can't be properly put to words. It takes away a basic sense of safety that all of us deserve to have, and silences feelings that need to be expressed.

I know that personally, the idea of admins helping to track suicidal posters is disturbing. Especially since quite often the posts that people come to us concerned about are not high risk. A large part of why the subreddit is able to be a space where people can talk is because we have talked with the admins, and they understand why our posters need anonymity. In every instance of someone having the police called on them that we know about, it has been another individual doxxing them. That sucks big time, and we do all we can to keep it from happening.

skyqween · 2016-04-04T04:27:09+00:00

We don't allow posts that aren't actually about depression here - the subreddit is for peer support. This is at best vaguely related to depression, and is - by your own admission - about politics.

skyqween · 2016-04-02T17:34:40+00:00

I am so sorry that it came across that way! It is a really good example of why I try not to actually post joking things - as you said there isn't a good way to convey humor via text, and this is a place where people need to be able to be open. I will definitely give the pup another pet for you, because there is no such thing as too many pets for puppy.

Spreading joy is one of my favorite things to do, because of exactly the feeling you're describing. I'm going to make sure the team sees this, and your really awesome compliment is going to make their weeks too :)

skyqween · 2016-04-02T16:49:55+00:00

Crazy, huh?

That's my bad humor creeping in because I'm still not actually awake. We do try to avoid taunts/being mean. Usually I edit out my mental commentary before actually putting the comment out. I'm going to blame my puppy and the fact that she demanded pets on this one sneaking past me.

I have to say I think that this

Your rules are the best rules I've ever seen on Reddit. I came here over a year ago and read the rules and I was like "fuck yeah...this is how people should help others not by saying : blah blah GET OVER IT, etc." I don't know if the implementation is good or not since I don't frequent here but again, best and most thought out rules ever IMO.

is the best compliment that I've gotten (well, it's for the whole mod team, but still) in ages. Hands down just made my week. Is it okay if I forward that on to the rest of the team?

skyqween · 2016-04-02T16:30:31+00:00

We do not allow anyone to advocate for specific treatments here. This has been removed.

skyqween · 2016-04-02T16:28:24+00:00

If you read the subreddit rules, you will see that the comments and posts you're talking about are not allowed here. The mod team views them as easy to make, often well intended but not thought out gestures that tend to do far more harm than good.

Please, if you see someone offering to move directly to PM, report it. We can't do anything about things we don't know about. If you think something is happening in the subreddit and you aren't sure it's okay, or you think that a rule should be changed, please message the mod team.

skyqween · 2016-04-02T16:22:05+00:00

The rules on the sidebar are the subreddit rules. (Crazy, huh?) Comments like 'pm me' and such are against subreddit rules and if you report them to us we will take them down. People who repeatedly do this and don't change their behavior after being talked to can be banned.

If you think about it, 'PM me, I'm here to help' is an incredibly easy and not very meaningful gesture. People who do this often make the offer to multiple people at a time, meaning they can't realistically follow through on their promises, and in PM when you get in over your head there isn't anyone else to help. It is a situation that is incredibly frustrating for us to see, and yet we end up unable to do much once things go wrong. There's only so much to do, aside from trying to prevent the situation in the first place.

skyqween · 2016-04-02T04:07:21+00:00

While this is true, we do ask that you make it very clear when mentioning the channel that it is not associated with the subreddit. Otherwise people end up thinking that we are able to intervene if there's a problem on the IRC channel, when we can't do anything.

skyqween · 2016-04-01T23:03:36+00:00

<.< It's the first time I saw the image?

We are fully aware that there are a lot of people who have a knee jerk reaction of 'call the police!' and we do everything that we can to discourage them. It can be really odd, but sometimes I know I get that reaction for a second before realizing I actually have much better resources to offer. Sometimes people worry about not doing enough and end up overreacting to an absurd level. There are so many things that can be done instead that are supportive rather than hurtful and scary, many of which require very simply things such as.... sitting and talking. Radical as that is.

skyqween · 2016-04-01T22:50:05+00:00

There isn't a 'good' explanation. As a mod of /r/suicidewatch you not only have the visible posts, but private pleas for help, in addition to the normal requirements that come with moderation. One of the hardest things we do as mods is know when to step back, know when we need a break, and remember that investing emotionally in an outcome is not only unhelpful, but also often dangerous and damaging. When we become focused on an outcome or 'fixing' something... it isn't very hard to lose sight of what actually matters - listening and connecting with someone that is having trouble.

The image you link to is an instance in which a (former) member of the mod team was doing way too much. Because they saw how much the community needed and they wanted to do it all. Unfortunately no one person can do everything, and their own self care got set aside. They got burnt out, and focused on outcomes. It's something that we are even more careful of now because of what happened, and something we never want to see happen again. I have never seen the policy of the subreddit be to out individuals, or to attempt intervention. We just happen to be people as well as mods, and sometimes people do the wrong thing with good intent.

skyqween · 2016-04-01T20:21:22+00:00

Mod of that subreddit here! We are very into privacy. As in, we do all things possible to protect our poster's privacy and keep well intended but often uneducated people from doxxing and reporting them. Interventions (like the police being called on you when you're already freaking out and feeling as though everything is ruined and the only thing to do is kill yourself) are incredibly traumatic and often lead to people turning inward, rather than being able to ask for help.

skyqween · 2016-04-01T20:19:19+00:00

Hi. /r/suicidewatch mod. If you post on our subreddit that you've already done something, or are about to we don't try to track you down. I know that is exceedingly distressing to some people, and it can be hard to understand, but a forceful intervention is mind-bogglingly traumatic and stops people from asking for help again.

People come to our subreddit because they feel safe. If we started encouraging or allowing what essentially are man hunts and doxxing, we'd not only be breaking reddit rules, we would also be stopping people from getting help before things escalated.

skyqween · 2016-04-01T20:15:15+00:00

I mod there, and we have a good relationship with the admins. They understand the importance in anonymity in what we do, and that trust is something people need in order to be able to talk about what they're going through.

Our subreddit would be completely deserted if the admins were tracking down the people who posted, because they wouldn't feel safe and word would get out. We certainly wouldn't be quiet about things if there was a sudden policy shift and our posters were no longer able to stay anonymous.

The only time our mod team even considers asking the admins to look into a user (which we consider extreme and a last resort) is when several of us agree that the person is a dangerous risk to others. A serious, 'this individual is actively planning and has the means to kill someone' risk.

Tl;dr? If you're suicidal and you post in /r/suicidewatch, we do everything possible to protect your privacy, and the admins understand why it's important and why we work the way we do.

skyqween · 2016-04-01T16:04:51+00:00

/r/suicidewatch mod here. We have a working relationship with the admins, who understand that anonymity is necessary for the function of our subreddit.

I also want to point out that the emergency requests also include things like bomb threats. In less extreme cases, I'm betting this also covers death threats.

skyqween · 2016-03-31T08:09:51+00:00

Please read the subreddit rules. Advocating specific treatment is not at all okay here.

skyqween · 2016-03-31T07:23:42+00:00

Moderators (that would be me) do not have access to all of the Reddit website. We have control over our subreddits. Moderators have no more ability to trace posts than than other user.

If you get IP banned, it will be because of a violation to the Reddit wide TOS. You can read about it in the user agreement.

skyqween · 2016-03-31T06:28:56+00:00

Lo siento por mi mal español.

Tenemos recursos limitado en español, por ejemplo teléfono directo del suicidio para América del Sur.

skyqween · 2016-03-29T04:31:46+00:00

Medical questions are something that need to be reviewed with your doctor or other medical provider. No one here can answer medication questions.

skyqween · 2016-03-28T04:28:48+00:00

Absolutely no one is making you stay or participate here. If you feel this subreddit is not healthy then please don't post or comment here.

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