Help me understand my Swiss boyfriend's family

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-06T17:14:49+00:00

Yes, I experienced that.

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-06T15:15:25+00:00

I don’t live in the same part of Switzerland as my bf’s parents. So learning their language won’t help me buy groceries

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-06T14:08:02+00:00

The closeted conflict is very likely, I will try to find it out…

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-06T13:04:59+00:00

I just wanted to say that the language my bf’s family speaks doesn’t help me in my everyday life, it’s not ‘the language of the country I live in’. But again, I understand the main message

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-06T12:40:10+00:00

Yes, but Switzerland has 4 official languages and I never lived in the area of my bf’s family. But I get what you want to say

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-05T11:51:45+00:00

I said I have higher education.... It's quite malicious to twist it like that.

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-05T10:37:41+00:00

Thank you! They are completely fluent in English though

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-05T06:59:33+00:00

No offense taken! In my culture it’s normal to have a close relationship w the bf’s family, because if things get serious, you will meet a lot (for example, through the grandchild and on holidays).

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T20:05:26+00:00

Yes, you’re right in that I’m not religious. Education: I’m more educated than most of them, yes. I don’t know if this matters to them. I feel like they don’t really care about me. They never really asked about my schools. Yes, my bf was completely oblivious. But I guess coldness from the family is normal to him

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T19:59:39+00:00

Huh! Ok that’s wild

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T16:29:00+00:00

Thank you, this answer really resonates with me! (And I really like the idea of one visit per year)

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T16:18:24+00:00

Rather conservative/religious

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T14:27:13+00:00

No, it wasn’t from her mum…

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T12:44:30+00:00

Nope

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T10:37:40+00:00

Thank you. It's just I get more and more unconfident every time I meet them. Like I wasn't worthy of talking

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T10:20:26+00:00

yes, that's true that they have racist roots (I know they talked s. about black people)
I'm not from the Balkan area, but I'm not sure they distinguish that much :D maybe for them all eastern europe is Balkan

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T09:46:35+00:00

Sorry, I'm a bit paranoid, that's why I don't give details. But no religion differences, nothing like that. They cook what I like means no meat.

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T09:28:35+00:00

He says that they like me, they never talk much to anyone, he is sure his mother doesn't think I would steal...

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T08:53:32+00:00

It's an unusual advice, but strangely I can see it work. I guess only Swiss understand the Swiss :D

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T08:39:48+00:00

Good points, thank you.

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-04T08:07:23+00:00

Thank you, you're very nice!

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-03T23:09:39+00:00

Makes sense

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-03T22:53:58+00:00

oh I'm so sorry....

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-03T22:52:24+00:00

Yes, but there are family functions which we would attend

RefrigeratorFront161 · 2025-01-03T22:51:16+00:00

I'm curious, what do you mean?

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