So, yesterday's
#Ingress event with
#NL1331 was very enlightening....and I don't just mean because of the large ENL turnout to the event. It gave me stuff to think about, and it's stuff I've not been able to stop thinking about since last night.
One of the more prominent things that came to light was a lack of compassion or crossfaction comradery in this region. The rest of the state seems fine, but locally it's fallen apart. What makes me say this? Let's take a situation that happened that managed to ruin the evening for two of my friends in attendance, and has probably helped to drive at least one of them that much further away from the game.
Last night, some of us were attempting to complete the
#NL1331 mission. The RES were outnumbered, and the mission required hacking, capturing/upgrading, modding, and linking the van portal. Suffice to say a number of ENL got it done. However, a good chunk of RES couldn't. The evening went on as such until one of the visiting ENL called for a temporary ceasefire. He got the room's attention, and when he said his piece, I saw many faces with green shirts and/or green badges nod and have that "Yeah, that's fair. Go ahead" expression. I saw alot of scanners get pocketed, and that made me happy.
Unfortunately, while trying to do the mission, there were a number of region-local ENL attendees who decided to have none of that. I am capable of mentioning exact names, but it'd break my heart to do so simply because many of them are people I've gotten to know, and some are ones that I feel like I can no longer trust. They continued their assault, and the way it was approached felt like outright
bullying to the local RES just trying to finish a mission. This was a mission that will likely not come again soon enough, and it would've taken minutes to finish. However, this small group felt like ruining it, and not even giving 5 minutes for people to finish this thing that was supposed to be part of the fun.
It was the visiting ENL that were trying to help things along, and it's the local ones that were getting in the way. I understand it's supposed to be a war, but we weren't there for a fight. We were there to have fun with everyone. Unfortunately, the evening ended with at least two people that had to go home without the mission, and instead took home a bad taste in their mouth. Suffice to say this backstabbing was a huge downer on the evening, and I've had to move a few ENL folks that I've gotten to know down my personal totem pole. Given their behavior last night, I doubt they even care, and are probably smiling this very second.
If you have a grin on your face right now after reading that last paragraph, you need to take a good look at yourself, and think about others for a change, regardless of in-game decision. You may think it's funny to crush the hopes and dreams of the Resistance because of some deluded feeling of accomplishment, but you need to remember that you are affecting the emotions of other human beings in a way that only makes this community smaller and/or creates negativity within it.
This "backstabbing" has only been the most recent in a series that this RES community has had to endure over the months. The NoCo Resistance, from what I can tell, is in total shambles. It's been in shambles since the start of the year. We've been bleeding players to the point where it has now become a
joke among the Resistance Slack community. We've had 6 L8s change sides in the past 6 months. Some left because they felt pressured, despite the lax attitude we've maintained for years. Some left because they couldn't get help, despite the community's multiple attempts to contact agents to provide said help. Some have left because of negativity in the community, despite the fact that they themselves were being uplifting the community and have thus only made the negativty worse by leaving. Many have dropped their scanners because they feel there's no longer a point to even trying to compete in this arena.
We've not gotten the chance to celebrate a single victory before it's crushed and outdone. We've carried out 3 significant operations over the past 6 months. All of them took months of preparation, and took the dedicated efforts of dozens of agents. And yet, not a one of them was posted about because work that some of us nearly died to get done was undone and outdone within days. Stuff that we spend months putting together only takes days to undo. The efforts of dozens of RES agents can be matched and outdone by a select few ENL agents. Seeing that makes it really hard for anyone to commit to larger operations.
On top of that, some of our best and most loved agents have switched sides. These are people who had brought hope to the team, and were people that were inspiring to the rest of us. We saw how they played, and it made many of us say "We can pull this out!" despite the green skies appearing at 2am. Unfortunately, those flames were extinguished, and the hope they brought lost forever for reasons that I still cannot understand to this day. The pain of such betrayal and loss is one that only makes the despair all that much deeper, and makes it harder for one to find the will to keep fighting in this charade of a battlefield.
Given the fact that I have been looked to as a leader of some kind, I've felt the weight of this shattered empire upon my shoulders. But that's just it: I never sought to be seen as a leader. If I had become one, it was because I was inspiring people. I don't organize. I don't motivate. I can't even organize and motivate myself, let alone other people. I like to follow people stronger and/or more confident than myself, and I like to get inspiration from others. But...not much of that matters right now.
I was handed the honor of the NoCo Community Leadership Award, and a key as one of the state's Elite V. So far, all is has brought me is pain and sadness. They've felt less like honors, and more like burdens. People expect great things from me, and yet...look at it all. I've been very inactive for going on two months now, both for personal and in-game reasons (much like what I outlined above). There's been little direction (at least from me) of the NoCo Resistance. We've not come close to winning a cycle all year. All the leadership award got me was a huge feeling of guilt, and the Elite V award just made me a target for guardian portal assassination as all the guardians I had up were systematically destroyed a week after the awards ceremony. Even my mere
participation in the awards took away the one I loved, and has left me emotionally broken since.
What happened to this team?That's a question I've been trying to answer for months. It's a question that I've lost countless hours of sleep over, and one that I have
literally shed gallons of tears trying to figure out. As someone that the community has apparently seen as a leader, I've felt my mind point to myself as the weak link. Others are quick to deflect the blame away from me, but that's a hard thing for me to do. Anyone who's gotten to know me will know that I seem to carry a perpetually guilty conscience, and have this deep-seated need to help people around me. It goes without saying that if I cannot help those around me, or make them happy, then I feel empty and useless.
For those that I've let down or driven away, I'm sorry. I truly am. No amount of apologizing will undo the damage I've done, but it's the best I am capable of right now the way I am.
For those who feel bad for me, and all the ones that say "I'm sorry" when they hear about these problems:
Shut up.No, seriously, shut up. I'm sick of the pity. I'm sick of the sympathy. I've enough self-loathing to sustain an entire high school of emo kids for an academic school year. I don't need any more - I've reached capacity. If I build up any more self-loathing, I'll have to go back into therapy, and that's an option I cannot afford right now.
All my cries and complaints aren't for you to simply feel bad about. They aren't something for you to laugh at either. They're not even an attempt to solicit an apology for something you did or didn't even do.
They're a goddamned cry for help.
Shut up and help meI can't fix these problems alone. I've spent months trying to find out what I can do to help, and all I can come up with is "disappear so as to prevent further damage" which is a
very bad place to go. Sorry to say, it's a place that I've been living for quite some time now, having felt like I've become this useless unloved thing that used to be the light of people's lives.
I need help to stop the bleeding of agents.
I need help to bring light and hope back to the Resistance.
I need help in lifting this community back up.
I can't do it alone. I feel like I've been having to do it alone. I know I shouldn't feel that way. But seeing all the crossfaction bullying, the deserting, the out-classing, and the lack of people willing to do more than simply say "I'm sorry" when they see me, I sure feel like the only person who is expected to do anything about this situation...
One of the first lessons taught in a management class is delegation.
"Work your strengths, and hire your weaknesses."I'm beat. I've been on the edge of in-game retirement for months already, but I cannot leave this community in such a sorry state. I need something,
anything, to help raise spirits and return balance to this arena.
I'm sorry that took so long, but this post is something I've needed to get off my chest for awhile. It took hours to put together, and an entire box of tissues to proofread. I'm really tempted to delete it and just continue in my actions of keeping quiet and just staying out of the way to prevent further damage to the situation. But....I feel I'd regret that more than getting it out of my system.
All I can do is apologize. I'm powerless beyond that at this point..