All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. 

Recent posts on Relationships

Underlying Patterns: Hard to See and Painfully Obvious

Change and letting go by choice can trigger one’s own feelings of loss and abandonment.

The Influence of Romantic Partners in Weight Loss

Resolve to lose weight in 2018? Consider how your romantic partner might help or hinder your efforts.

How Good Is Your Advice, Really?

How often do you give advice to others? Are you a good advisor? How do you know?

8 Reasons You May Not Stand Up to Your Partner

How are you dealing with your bullying partner?

Steve Yarbrough: Reflections on a Lifetime of Waiting

By Jennifer Haupt on January 05, 2018 in One True Thing
Writers write about the things that bother them most—lost love, missed opportunities, and things that should have been said and done but weren’t.

Ten Ways to Become a Better Friend

Most of us want to be liked. Here are some tips on being the kind of person that you yourself would count as a friend.

Using Psychology to Talk Politics

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on January 04, 2018 in Intentional Insights
Want to get irrational friends and family to accept the facts in conversations about politics? This blog offers research-based tips.

The Art of Loving in the 21st Century

Our days can be filled with love and happiness—if we really want it.

Passing Judgment

By Terri Apter Ph.D. on January 04, 2018 in Domestic Intelligence
Why improving our judgment is such a worthy resolution.
William J. McCloskey "Girl in Red Hat" (1922)/wikimedia commons

Imprisoned by Hoarding

By Elizabeth Young on January 04, 2018 in Adaptations
“You may feel a need to escape once you get inside," Lark says as we stand on the landing outside her apartment.

Top Ten Tips for Surviving Breakups

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on January 04, 2018 in Emotional Fitness
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try certain connections are just not meant to be. Breaking up is hard to do, but it's healthier than an emotionally vacant relationship.

Humorous Communication and Coping In Relationships

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on January 03, 2018 in Adventures in Dating
A person's Humor Orientation describes his/her tendency to use humor. This entry describes some ways that this orientation might be productive when facing difficult events.

How Vulnerable Should You Let Yourself Be?

The impulse, self-protectively, to ward off whatever feels threatening is only natural. But you also have to consider the costs of such cautiousness.

Why Are Fathers so Angry at Sons?

By Jeffery S. Smith M.D. on January 03, 2018 in Healing and Growing
Being a dad involves a lot of self-discipline. When sons show none, a father's unhelpful anger is only too natural.

Do Psychopaths Crave Dark Chocolate? Bittersweet New Study

Afraid your new love interest is whispering bittersweet nothings? Study reveals a preference for bitter foods might reveal a toxic personality.

What Does Makeup Say About You?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on January 03, 2018 in Attraction, Evolved
What do we assume about a woman wearing makeup? And do our preconceptions have any basis in fact?

How to Choose a Better Partner

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on January 02, 2018 in Compassion Matters
Four ways to break out of the same dating cycles and choose batter partners and relationships.

How To Apologize For Reals

By John Kim, LMFT on January 02, 2018 in The Angry Therapist
Because most people don't know how to apologize.

Proximity and Preference – Why We Like Who We Are Close To

Is it just me or do you love it when your on-screen duos become real life lovers? Perhaps proximity played a role in their attraction.

Finding Success in Your Second Semester

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on January 02, 2018 in Social Lights
10 tips for college students and their parents.

Seven Ways a Cheating Man Will Break Your Heart (Again)

Learning about infidelity might be only the beginning of your pain.

Why the Hard-to-Get Are So Very Hard to Get

The winners at the mating game may seem to be the hard-to-get, but new research shows why you should stay away. Hint: narcissism has something to do with it.

Quiet Relationship Resolutions

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on January 02, 2018 in Complicated Love
Have New Year's relationship resolutions always ended in disappointment? Making promises to yourself and quiet changes to your own behavior can make a real difference this year!

Meaningful Moments from Two Decades Studying Single People

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on January 02, 2018 in Living Single
A moment when the conversation about single people suddenly became more enlightened, and another moment that left me stunned and demoralized.
John Amodeo

Is Unconditional Love Really Possible?

Many people pursue the ideal of unconditional love. But is this possible or a setup for disappointment? How can we be responsive to others while also being responsive to ourselves?

Men’s Intersectional Relationship to Male Privilege

Have you been wondering how to be a better ally to women? Building your awareness is a good start.

The A to (Almost) Z of How Flow Helped Sue Grafton Find Fame

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on January 01, 2018 in Creating in Flow
It's no mystery that Sue Grafton loved to write. The joy of being in flow is one reason why, as she explained in this interview.

Pets Rock

Research points to the physical and mental health benefits of owning and caring for a pet.

How Should We Judge Milkshake Ducks?

Not with anger or scorn, but in a more nuanced manner.