So, I had an abortion the other day. Among other things, my experience made me realize just how supremely fucked up these fetal heartbeat bills really are.
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P.S. I feel a bit nervous and exposed tweeting about my abortion (which just shows how much I've internalized the hush-hush culture around it). But abortion is NORMAL. And restrictive laws like these ignore women's realities so thoroughly. #shoutyourabortion
I live in abortion-friendly NYC, can afford it, and made my decision literally 1 day after my missed period. If I had to wait that long for an abortion, how the fuck are women supposed to plan for theirs under heartbeat laws???
These bills are cruel, disingenuous, evil mindfucks and are designed to send an ominous message, even if they do get struck down by federal judges. Iowa's did, but Florida and Ohio are next. The goal is the Supreme Court.
we don’t talk enough about how it doesn’t fucking matter what random ppl think about abortion cutoffs, bc most ppl are not doctors and have no idea how it works or why someone would seek a 20-week abortion! it’s deeply weird to me to poll voters about medical procedures
Finally I went in for my abortion at almost 6.5 weeks pregnant. A heartbeat can often be detected at 6 weeks. Under one of these laws, it could have been too late.
I meticulously chart my cycles, so I knew I was pregnant right away. At 4.5 weeks I went to my gyno and was told it was TOO early for an abortion—they couldn't yet see anything on the ultrasound.
I was told to come back in a week. At 5.5 weeks pregnant, I was able to be scheduled for their first available procedure...5 days away.
why did i choose a profession where you just have homework and deadline dread forever
i wrote a superpersonal piece for the about how much my family depends on Amazon, aka how capitalism breaks our legs then hands us crutches
even carmela soprano knew that the legal way to do this was to donate $$$ to Columbia and strong-arm her neighbor while preserving plausible deniability
My dad Stanley Aronowitz died on Mon at age 88. He was an unstoppable, brilliant, resilient, hilarious guy with an endless capacity to learn and listen. Here’s more about his legacy from the NYT
anyway i can’t with bloodless centrist pundits who are like “let’s consider a 15 week limit as a compromise, it’s what most ppl want” who cares what these ignorant randos theoretically want, we are talking about real people with real pregnancies
you're in nyc, invoke the Freelance Isn't Free act on their asses! www1.nyc.gov/site/dca/about
“It’s really good that you adopted him. Then he won’t be ghetto like other black kids.”
i wrote about how eventually we're all gonna have to face that most standard conservative ideas are pretty fucking misanthropic, heartless, and violent :)
A 1977 line from my mom Ellen Willis that I’ve been repeating in my head. One of the few quotations I’ve seen that gives equal weight to hope and reality.
like, a lot of people feel comfy with first trimester abortions but not second trimester? ok but they have zero idea what they’re talking about!
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Really great piece on why the Heidi Heitkamp’s “no” vote is a bigger deal than Jeff Flake’s theatrics thecut.com/2018/10/heidi-
been thinking abt this passage by my mom, ellen willis, on a 1969 abortion speakout. poverty stories are trump-era class consciousness, but women's sexual autobiographies are still deemed TMI, even by some progressives, 50 goddamn years later
If obsessive surveillance didn't even keep Vegas safe then wtf is it good for
it's so peaceful and refreshing to turn off my mentions to only ppl i follow, maybe i should do it even when i'm not getting a deluge of anti-choice (and super-off-topic anti-semitic??) tweets
i have news!! im writing a book about the sexual revolution’s unfinished business! im vvv excited and also a little scared!
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i profiled for 's Other 2020 issue. we talked about radical feminists, early career precarity, consciousness-raising, liz warren, and yes, The List
this has been a horrifying week for sexual freedom. for my next sex advice column at i wanna come out guns blazing. email any burning questions to [email protected] (you don't have to be a teen!)
to me, the most unassailable pro-choice framing is desired pregnancy-as-generosity, undesired pregnancy-as-invasion. here's my mom Ellen Willis (left) and Sally Rooney (right) on consensual pregnancy
here is the story of , an erstwhile mormon mommy blogger who left the church, got divorced, and then—fueled by financial strain and an identity crisis—had a FULL blown feminist awakening. my profile in
It's my mom Ellen Willis's bday today, and I was coincidentally emailed this photo of her at the 1969 Ladies Home Journal sit-in <3
reminds me of one a quote from my mom, inscribed on her grave: “It is the longing for happiness that is potentially radical, while the morality of sacrifice is an age-old weapon of rulers.” twitter.com/amandamull/sta
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I wrote about woke misogynists, aka wolves in sheep's pussy hats. fusion.net/story/391391/w
some guy just hit on me by swiping me into the subway with his unlimited metrocard like "girl ur so beautiful, your ride is on me." as a pay-per-ride customer i found this incredibly romantic!!
The deepest saddest irony I’ve felt in a while is grappling with how much Amazon has made life easier for my disabled 85-year-old father, a former factory worker and union organizer...
time to re-up this quote, which has once again temporarily soothed my inflamed thoughts.
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A 1977 line from my mom Ellen Willis that I’ve been repeating in my head. One of the few quotations I’ve seen that gives equal weight to hope and reality.
i adored Now and Then as a preteen but recently re-watched it and was distracted by the unacknowledged fact that roberta was obviously queer!!!! (right?)
🚨sooo bestowed upon me my dream gig, aka a monthly column advising the youngs about S-E-X! first up: nudes and digital consent🚨 teenvogue.com/story/when-is-
so we're officially at the point where a credible sexual assault allegation doesn't end a campaign, so much as force us to do the f. scott fitzgerald thing of gracefully holding two opposed ideas in mind at once??? ugh businessinsider.com/former-neighbo
I really liked the millennial burnout article but let's remember that there's a HUGE swath of poor millennials that have a very different experience, esp. when it comes to work "optimization"...
this is so much worse than i thought it was gonna be!
so the let me write about my fave topic in the world—early horny radical feminists! read it! nytimes.com/2018/02/16/opi
today is my last day at splinter. i took a p sweet buyout deal so im bout to soul-search in the woods, but! i also have some ideas up my sleeve.
not unrelatedly: UNIONIZE!
shit is wild on this earth rn but it’s comforting to know 16-year-olds are still worrying about basic matters of the heart like: how do i tell my crush i like them? my latest column:
non-rhetorical q: has any study asked men whether/why they have a lower standard of cleanliness than their female partners? whenever i hear about this dynamic it's always "my dude doesn't care if our house is clean and i do, so i end up cleaning" nytimes.com/2020/02/11/ups
So when I read a story like this one I’m reminded of how the US’s inadequacy in health care, elder care, and crumbling worker protections has forced a lifelong labor advocate to rely on an inhumane hellscape like Amazon. It’s fucking depressing. nytimes.com/2018/11/26/pod
you've gotta be FUCKING kidding me
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wish there were a better cultural language for the indeterminate care of a sick/dying parent. ppl get it when you say “my parent died” but i freeze up when i have to be like “my dad is old and ill and needs me, could be a day could be a year”
wrote for on how my best-case scenario abortion exposed what's bad and broken about repro rights (and our silence about it)
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James Deen got accused of rape, and their TV show got axed. @gabydunn and on being the talented babies throw out with the abuser's bathwater splinternews.com/don-t-let-fema
all i can think about is the desperation some clerk must have felt to leak this in order to somehow stop it/change it
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Major scoop from @joshgerstein @alexbward: An initial draft majority opinion written by Justice Samuel Alito and circulated inside the Supreme Court shows the court has voted to strike down Roe v. Wade
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baby's first celeb profile! i got to hang with @BeanieFeldstein for , and we talked about teen movies, sociology class, and falling in love. we were fangirly and jewish as HELL
Jesus this is evil
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NEW: A Miami resident married to a U.S. citizen says he lost his wallet & that hours later, someone called to say he found it and to come to a highway rest-stop to get it back. He says that when he arrived, the "good samaritans" were really ICE agents: miaminewtimes.com/news/ice-arres
Leave it to @gabydunn to be THE 100% realest. Here she is on not signing yr life away to companies fusion.net/story/318054/b ft !
"Billionaires cannot be trusted and we should not clamor to elect them, even if they’re Oprah."-
here is the fly-as-hell, appropriately '70s cover of MY BOOK, the thing i've been pouring my love and anger and hope and anxiety into for 100 years! coming in summer 2022, learn more and preorder heeeere penguinrandomhouse.com/books/639587/b
hey remember all those pregnancy discrimination stories from the year two thousand eighteen?? there was this one, from amazon warehouses: nytimes.com/interactive/20
hey remember when the FBI released a report in 2009 about growing rightwing extremism and the GOP got so offended that they made janet napolitano formally apologize?? nytimes.com/2018/11/03/mag
In general, we still gotta start including poor young ppl in our "millennial" convos. Here's my rant on that!
i wrote a long reported piece for about male sex workers who see women. i srsly fell in love w each and every female client I spoke to! (the men were sweet too!)
ive been a bernie/liz swing voter this whole time (which tbh has felt weird considering the shitty vibe on this website). so i will be all-in for bernie, but ALSO feel really sad rn.
My book BAD SEX pubs today! Here is an absolutely *lovely* review of it in the NYT!
This is lovely. There are so many men who can accept “no”—which is why women know the fucking difference when they are actually assaulted vox.com/first-person/2
Poor young ppl deal w a diff kind of burnout, what Richard Sennett and Jonathan Cobb called their “hidden injuries” in 1972--the heartbreak they feel when institutions fail them again and again
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for ppl wondering about why my ob/gyn made me wait—it was about my health not politics
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Replying to @agonzalesphoto and @nona
About 1 out of 50 pregnancies are ectopic - outside the uterus. If you have a D&C or take the abortion pill w/o verifying an intrauterine pregnancy and it IS an ectopic, you could assume you are not pregnant and ignore the signs of a ruptured ectopic, which is life threatening.
does anyone else feel like they’re in the prison scene in Goodfellas? like you can make a nice sauce but you can’t LEAVE per se
i'm really enjoying the fact that WAP stood for Women Against Pornography in the '70s. one day there's gonna be a wikipedia disambiguation that's like
"WAP may also refer to:
-the sanctimonious misguided anti-porn group
-the 2020 pussy anthem"
Many poor millennials remain in low-wage non-unionized jobs and don't have BAs (but might still have debt from a few semesters of college). This hasn't changed now that the economy has "recovered." It hasn't changed for decades.
my 2019 was entirely freelance! it was feast-or-famine to the max, and VERY hard to do while writing a book proposal. here's the work im most proud of and, in the spirit of raising standards, what i got paid (thx to for the idea)
Remember when Dubya beamed proudly when he called the woman who held down 3 shitty jobs “uniquely american”? That’s how you look when you celebrate 2 hourlong lines by saying you’re proud of the turnout. This means the system is broken. Nothing to be proud of.
just gonna RT this thread every goddamn time one of these evil heartbeat bills pass
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So, I had an abortion the other day. Among other things, my experience made me realize just how supremely fucked up these fetal heartbeat bills really are.
lol the whole point of that show is that white straight men were casual bigots in the 60s?? if you need that title card what do you think Mad Men is
my first crush was macaulay culkin, i cried when he died from bee stings in my girl, here is an excerpt from my diary, written at age 7 thecut.com/2019/02/12-wom
Fuck humblebrags: SO excited that “The Essential Ellen Willis” won a National Book Critics Circle award!!!
this is enraging but also this is how it is literally ALL the time for non-rich parents of 0-to-5-year-old kids (and after 3pm on schooldays) nytimes.com/2020/07/02/bus
in the shadow of the clearest victory yet for heartbeat bills, re-upping this thread on how it's often LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE to get an abortion before 6 weeks
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So, I had an abortion the other day. Among other things, my experience made me realize just how supremely fucked up these fetal heartbeat bills really are.
this week's column is all about first-time sex: if you should wait for luuuv, if it hurts, if "virginity" even exists (no)
for the last time: “6 weeks pregnant” means 4 weeks after conception. 2 weeks after a missed period. any heartbeat bill reporting that doesn’t clarify is irresponsible and inaccurate.
i wrote a silly post for in 2017 about period sex + emerged 1.5 yrs later w mad science knowledge, collusion accusations, and a possible health benefit to being a slut! also, everything you think you know about TSS is probably wrong!!! vitals.lifehacker.com/everything-you
Get rich or die vlogging: @gabydunn on the mindfuck of being internet-famous and flat broke fusion.net/story/244545/f
this is highly fucked
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once again: capitalists will break your legs then give you crutches
so the literal opposite of “defund the police”
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A Joe Biden op-ed: "I’m proposing an additional $300 million to reinvigorate community policing in our country. Every single police department should have the money they need to institute real reforms" usatoday.com/story/opinion/
why don’t conservatives understand that the singlehood upswing is deeply connected to ppl (esp women) being less willing to put up with BAD sex/relationships!
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But there's also a pretty-clearly-integrated conservative story of what's happening here, which is that hook-up culture itself is part of what leads to less sex, because it leads to fewer monogamous relationships. Maximal liberation = less actual intercourse.
this week for , i wrote about casual sex, the “vulnerability paradox,” and this text i got from a rando one night in 2015 teenvogue.com/story/period-s
