Dear Friend, I’ve been hearing this a lot lately:  G, you seem so different. Me: I am different. I finally gave up being a good girl in order to become a free woman. How? Tell me how to become a free woman. Me: Okay. Here goes. Here is everything I know about becoming free:     I worked so hard on this speech because I was preparing it for YOU. I sat on the floor and sweated this one out because I wanted to come to you through this computer and with my actual voice, tell you what I’ve learned…

Today is Equal Pay Day. It’s on April 4 because, on average, a woman had to work all of 2016 and through April 4 of 2017 to make the same amount a man made for the same work in 2016 alone. In other words, on average, women in the workplace have worked for free for all of 2017. And to be clear, today is the day that white women earn on average what men earned in 2016. Here’s what women make relative to men: Asian-American Women (88%) White Women (79%) African American Women (63%) Native American Women (59%) Latina Women…

Fear is loud. Loud things tend to get our attention. When we allow loud fear voices to steal our attention we feel shaky, paranoid, hopeless.   Love lives in the quiet. Love requires us to stop what we’re doing and drop in. Is this why it’s called falling in love?   Fear would have us keep talking and yelling and arguing so we never hear love whispering. Love is patient, and it beckons us to be quiet and still. We can only hear love speak to us when we stop speaking and start listening.   Listen is the call of…