Hello,
As the post says I am a 27 year old family nurse practitioner in Virginia. I work in private practice, think family doctor, and my company from the beginning has required me to use my own personal computer. When I was hired I wasn't told about that, but instead on the first day, they told me to bring it and use it daily as it needs to go in with me to see the patients. I think this is crazy for a variety of reasons- lots of wear/ tear that I'm not compensated with, bring back/ forth- risk of losing it or it being stolen, patient's records on my personal computer, sick people getting germs on my computer and on and on. I have been at this position for 5 months and so far the mouse pad has stopped working because my hands are always wet with hand sanitizer. So then I had to buy a wireless mouse. I have a nice computer and I hate that it's being "destroyed" like this.
Today I have strep. Strep as an adult is terrible. I told my boss I could either stay home or stay home and work at home clearing lab results, ect. That night on the phone she said yes please work from home. First thing this morning they wanted me to install a timer to my personal computer that allows the practice to see how much time is being spent in each chart, for billing purposes they say. It is a google chrome timer extension. I told them that I would be more than happy to use that on a work computer (we have a few desktops) but I was not comfortable downloading a timer on my home computer. She said OK, but was clearly mad, then 5 minutes later had her assistant call me and tell me to stop working for the day since I wouldn't install the timer and that I was now only allowed to use a desktop at work.
This is on top of the fact that I have to clock in/ clock out on an app on my phone that tracks my gps. Yes, I have a master's degree and have to clock in/out even for lunch. During the entire time it is on, gps is tracked.
So listen, I know I need a new job but- is this legal? How do I approach this? I am now going to have to use sick/vacation time that I wasn't planning on using. I think I should be paid for my time today.
[Remorse]
I am going to go ahead and admit I did an asshole thing and I am a huge piece of shit.
My daughter and I have always had a very strained relationship. It was mostly because of my ex and her poisoning the relationship between my daughter and me. And the fact that we were teenage parents didn't help.
When my daughter was 14, I was finally able to have the courts add an order preventing my ex from badmouthing me and withholding my daughter for visitation. But the damage was done.
My daughter has unfortunately picked up a lot of traits from her mother and has only ever used me for financial reasons. She just has no respect for me after all those early years.
We barely had a relationship in the past two years when she came back into my life a few months ago. She started acting like we had a close relationship so that her fiance's family would be impressed.
I went along with it because at least I was seeing my daughter again.
The wedding was in 12 days and her fiance's family flew in for the wedding. My house is larger so I offered to house them.
Last Saturday night, we all started drinking heavily and I accidentally let slip to her fiance's father all the things my ex did and how she affected my daughter's upbringing. And I regrettably told them about how my daughter treated me the past 8 years.
The next day, the fiance broke off the wedding because his family didn't want "someone like my daughter in their family". I tried explaining to them that I was drunk talking nonsense in an effort to save the wedding but it didn't work.
I sat and cried as my daughter screamed at me for an hour that night. She was heartbroken and it's all my fault. I then got confronted by my ex on my front lawn where she proceeded to call me the most disgusting things.
I went and paid off all the vendors that my daughter had booked on Monday and Tuesday. I also paid all the deposits my daughter put down back to her in a check she hasn't cashed yet. This cost nearly 60 thousand dollars. And I still need to pay her back for other expenses and vendors that wouldn't let me pay for her.
Even worse is that my daughter had quit her job and moved out of her place because she was supposed to fly out right after the wedding to be with her husband. I am trying to figure out how to provide her financial support because she will not even talk to me.
Today, my daughter came to our office with a baseball bat and smashed the storefront and all the computers. She also threatened to harm my wife and I. I am still trying to diffuse this situation because my wife is terrified.
My own family is angry at me. My wife hasn't talked to me properly since Sunday.
I feel like absolute shit and this was the biggest fuck up of my life. I haven't really slept since this happened. And I don't even know who I can talk about this to. Everyone was told that the groom got cold feet and that's why the wedding is off. Only my immediate family and my ex know the truth.
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